We Used to Bathe Together, Now He Locks Me Out So He Can Bath Alone

We used to bathe together. We started when we were dating. It was an intimate ritual that kept the bond going. We didn’t just bathe; we talked a lot and fought about little things, and sometimes the little things went too far, too passionate and too steamy.

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We would come from the bath not only refreshed but revived. We carried this behavior into our marriage, and it was always fun. I would wait for him until he got home so we could bathe together. He would do the same for me until lately, it doesn’t happen anymore.

I saw it when it started changing. His excuses were many; chief among the excuses was tiredness. “I was too tired, I couldn’t wait. I had to bathe so I could relax.”

Even when I was there and not done with my chores, he would enter to bathe first just to avoid us bathing together. He called it a little thing. He wondered why I would nag about something this small, but this meant a lot to me. It showed we hadn’t changed. It showed life hadn’t changed who we are.

Currently, it has come to zero. No bathing together at all, and our marriage is not even two years old. I hate that I’m the one complaining about it all the time, and I hate that he makes no effort to resolve it but rather complains about my complaining.

“If it’s a nuisance to you that I’m ranting every day, then why don’t we do it so you and I will be free?” I asked. He responded, “It’s the way you annoy me with the ranting, that’s why I don’t want to do it.”

Even if I don’t rant, he still gets up and bathes alone. To add salt to injury, he locks the bathroom so I don’t force my way through. He’s making me feel like he’s hiding something from me or, better still, that he’s doing it with someone else, that’s why he’s avoiding that moment with me. It sounds like it doesn’t make sense, but it’s something I can’t grasp.

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I want us to go back to the way we used to be, so I’m sharing it here and will also share the link with him so he knows it worries me so much that he has switched off the light that lit our path. Please advise him to start again. I need all your support to get him to do it again because it means so much to me.