Dating Awards 2023: Bedroom Products

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Sex might be the oldest human activity — and if not, it’s surely at least in the running.

But just because the origins of our sex lives stretch back tens of thousands of years doesn’t mean that we have to get it on like it’s still the Stone Age.

Every year, people are trying to develop new and better products to improve our sex lives, and while some of them are underwhelming at best, and others, simply unnecessary, some of them do wonderful jobs at addressing issues people face in the bedroom, and/or helping take sex lives up a notch or two.

To help you distinguish the good from the bad, here is the 2023 AskMen Dating Awards, Bedroom Products edition:

Bedroom Toys

Best High-Tech Male Toy

The Handy

In a long-distance relationship? Missing the romantic touch of your lover? Not to worry. The Handy is a new toy that simulates, well, a handjob. Which might not be the sexiest of all sex acts, but The Handy comes closer to replicating the real thing than perhaps any other sex toy comes to replicating any other sex act. Program the speed, line it up so it’s at the right height, and receive a real-live handy while having phone sex with your lover. You can even hold the phone with both of your hands, if you so desire.

Finalists: Arcwave Ion Masturbator, Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo

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Best Low-Tech Male Toy

Satisfyer Masturbator Eggs

Though Tenga’s Eggs were first on the market, after testing both, it’s hard not to come away with a distinct appreciation for Satisfyer’s spin on the concept — rather than adding lube, you just add water. Specifically, pouring a little bit of warm water on one of their single-use eggs allows it to become softer and incredibly stretchy, instantly creating a comfortable masturbation sleeve that doesn’t leave any lube residue. A delightful experience, whether solo or partnered.

Finalists: Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage, Tenga Egg Wonder Variety Pack

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Best Fellatio Toy

Fleshlight Turbo Thrust Blue Ice

Look, there are options on the market for toys that will actually simulate a blowjob where you don’t need to move your own hands around, but sometimes it’s less about the motion and more about the sensation. With a tripartite construction to replicate lips, mouth and throat, the Fleshlight Turbo Thrust stroker (plus some good lube, naturally) does a genuinely, surprisingly good job of mimicking the real thing.

Finalists: Kiiroo Keon Interactive Masturbator, Autoblow AI+

Check out the Fleshlight Turbo Thrust Blue Ice

Best Couples Toy

We-Vibe Chorus

While any sex toy could in theory be a couples toy in the right circumstances, a truly good couples toy is designed for partner sex from the ground up. We-Vibe’s Chorus is undeniably a knockout in this regard for hetero couples, created to deliver both internal and external stimulation for people with vaginas, all while allowing enough space for a penis to enter — and simultaneously feel the vibrations. It’s almost like you’re having a threesome… almost.

Finalists: Dame Eva II, Fun Factory Manta

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Best Clit Toy

Womanizer Premium 2

While we’re now several years into the air suction revolution in clit-stimulating toys, it remains at the forefront when it comes to pleasure potential. The folks at Womanizer know what they’re doing here — the Premium 2 is small and quiet, yet powerful enough to deliver multiple orgasms. Most importantly, it doesn’t bring the soreness often associated with traditional vibrators. All of this makes it great for solo play, but it’s unobtrusive enough to join in on partnered sex to help take things up a notch.

Finalists: Bloomi Clitoral and Body Vibrator, Satisfyer Pro 2 (Generation 3)

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Best Clit/G-Spot Combo Toy

Tracy’s Dog

If your partner craves the blended orgasms that come from simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot, there are options on the market. And since you’re not a selfish lover, you won’t mind getting them one, right? Tracy’s Dog is an objectively weird name for a sex toy, but the reviews don’t lie — this one is a jaw-droppingly good option for delivering blended orgasms.

Finalists: Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator, Womanizer InsideOut

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Best Vibrator

Magic Wand Micro

OK, let’s get this straight. The original Magic Wand, which you had to plug into the wall, made a cordless version. And then they made a smaller version of the cordless version called the Magic Wand Mini, which won this category last year. This year, they’ve simply done the same thing again — made a smaller version, this time with the Magic Wand Micro, which somehow packs serious vibrator punch despite being small enough to fit in your pocket. We’re excited for next year’s edition, which will doubtless be invisible to the naked eye, and somehow still capable of delivering Earth-shattering orgasms.

Finalists: Wild Flower Enby 2, We-Vibe Tango X

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Best Prostate Toy

Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager

If you aren’t one of the guys who knows that prostate-based orgasms are more intense than just regular penis-based ones, maybe now’s the time to find out firsthand? Lelo’s Hugo isn’t cheap, but it packs a punch for the price, offering not just dual-motor vibratory pleasure but also a remote-control function to allow you (or a lover) to play around with your P-spot.

Finalists: We-Vibe Vector+, Fun Factory Duke

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Best Phallus Ring

We-Vibe Pivot

Good data is obviously hard to come by, but cock rings may be well over 1,000 years old. There’s no need to rely on ancient technologies when it comes to your erection, though — We-Vibe’s Pivot doesn’t just encircle the penis to squeeze it into erection, it also vibrates. And yes, the vibrations can be controlled via Bluetooth. So you and whoever else you give control of your erection to can have fun.

Finalists: MysteryVibe Tenuto 2, Playboy Pleasure Bunny Buzzer Ring

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Best Distance Toy

Lovense Lush 3

If you and your partner don’t share a place — or a city, or a country — then having a setup that allows for you to get it on from a distance is a pretty darn good idea. Lovense are the reigning champs in this category with their Bluetooth-capable, app-enabled Lovense 3 toy, and the proof of the pudding is in how many sexy cam streamers use it to let viewers tease and please them from afar. (Actually, that’s maybe not a bad role-play idea — one of you is the sexy streamer and one of you is the pervy viewer.)

Finalists: Kiiroo Onyx+ & Pearl2 Couple Set, Lovense Ferri

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Best Strap

Strap-On-Me Large Vibrating Strap On

Born without a penis but yearning to get your thrust on? Try the Strap-On-Me Large Vibrating Strap On. Designed to be useable without a harness — though your mileage may vary — what sets it apart is that it’s set up to give the wearer both G-spot and clitoral stimulation, while yet another motor in the tip gives the person you’re penetrated a little excitement, too. What’s that saying about what goes around comes around?

Finalists: Gender X Orgasmic Orchid Poseable Strapless Strap-On, Fun Factory Share Lite

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Bedroom Products

Best Water-Based Lube

Lelo Personal Moisturizer

Lelo are big players in the sex toy game, and it’s nice to see that their expertise there has translated to success in the lube game, too. Though it looks almost like a cologne bottle, this isn’t a spritz situation — just a fancy dispenser of incredibly high-quality water-based lube, which, unlike silicone-based lubes, won’t stain your sheets or degrade your silicone toys, and unlike oil-based lubes, won’t damage your condoms.

Finalists: Good Clean Love Almost Naked Personal Lubricant, #LubeLife Water-Based Lubricant

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Best Silicone-Based Lube

Überlube Silicone Lubricant

That being said, while silicone-based lube is a no-go with silicone-based toys, and can be harder to clean off fabrics, unlike water-based lubes, it doesn’t dry up as quickly, meaning it’s great for long-lasting sex sessions, or ones where natural lube is absent or in short supply. Überlube’s entry into this category is a perennial favorite for a reason — silky smooth, not sticky, doesn’t stain, flavorless and odorless. What more could you want?

Finalists: pjur Original Silicone Lubricant, Swiss Navy Premium Silicone-Based Lubricant

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Best Flavored Lube

Sliquid Swirl Pink Lemonade Lubricant

It must be said, some people do want flavor and odor when it comes to lube. Whether it’s to mask (or upgrade) a partner’s scent, or just because they really like a specific flavor, flavored lube can be a fun addition to sex — so long as it’s a high-quality choice. Like, for instance, Sliquid’s lovely Pink Lemonade flavor, which will give your sexy times a distinct taste of summer, even on the coldest days of winter.

Finalists: Glissant Sea Salt and Caramel, Astroglide Strawberry Liquid

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Best Backdoor Lube

Hello Cake Tush Cush

Because, unlike the vagina, the anus is not naturally self-lubricating, butt sex requires a lubier lube. Something that’s extra slippery and lasts and lasts. Thankfully, lots of brands make lubes specifically for anal sex, and among these, Hello Cake’s poetically named “Tush Cush” takes the, well, cake. It doesn’t feature any bells and whistles, just a really, really good hybrid lube that mixes the best of water-based and silicone-based, without any of the nasty ingredients you don’t want. However they do it, it’s awesome.

Finalists: Pure for Men Coconut-Based Lube, System JO H20 Anal Water-Based

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Best PE Product

Promescent Delay Spray

Look — climaxing sooner than you want to is a complex situation. It’s not the end of the world, and it doesn’t mean you’re bad in bed, but that also doesn’t make it the most fun experience. There are ways to train yourself to last longer, and there are also simple, convenient short-term solutions, like Promescent’s Delay Spray, which is specially formulated not just to decrease your sensitivity and thus delay your orgasm, but also to absorb into your penis before it can transfer to your partner.

Finalists: MyHixel Control, Roman Swipes

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Best ED Pill Service

Bluechew

Whether they become an issue for your sex life around your 70th birthday or around your 30th, erection issues are no fun. Thankfully, ED pills exist, and while you might associate them with guys who are older than you, if you’re having trouble getting or maintaining an erection, it might be time to look into them. Thankfully, a budding crop of DTC services exist to simplify the process. We think Bluechew is the best of the bunch, thanks to its comparatively very reasonable prices, a handful of subscription options to fit your needs, and (best of all?) they’re chewable.

Finalists: Hims, Roman

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Best ED Device

FirmTech Tech Ring

Not a pill guy? No problem. Cutting-edge cock rings exist. We love FirmTech’s Tech Ring, which is designed not only to help you achieve and maintain erection, but also, thanks to a built-in sensor, to help you track your erections while you sleep, giving you invaluable data about your sexual health that you simply cannot get elsewhere this cheaply or easily. Not to get all Neil Armstrong, but it feels like a serious leap forward in the space.

Finalists: Eddie by Giddy, Osbon Erecaid

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Best Latex Condoms

One Condoms myOne Perfect Fit

Much of the STI transmission that goes on in the world could probably be done away with in one single step — finding guys condoms that actually fit them properly. That’s the One Condoms mission, and it’s not just a noble one; it also feels great. Offering a variety of sizes that take both length and girth into account, One Condoms give you a real shot at finding the perfect condom for you in a way that other brands simply aren’t addressing right now.

Finalists: Okamoto Crown Skinless Skin, P.S. Condoms

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Best Ultra-Thin Condoms

Trojan Magnum BareSkin Condoms

OK, in fairness, fit isn’t 100% of the issue. Some people just need to try a thinner condom. If that’s what you’re looking for, Trojan’s got you covered. Their Magnum BareSkin Condoms are genuine marvels of engineering. On the surface, they’re nothing fancy, but a condom that feels like it’s barely there without making you worry that it’ll break in half mid-coitus is a thing to behold.

Finalists: Skyn Elite, Lelo Hex

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Best Non-Latex Condoms

Skyn Original Condoms

Oh, yes — there’s one other concern that makes some people feel iffy about condoms: latex allergies. Skyn makes nothing but latex-free condoms, so, with all due respect to other condom companies competing in this space, they’re the ones to beat. They’ve got a variety of options to choose from, but the Original model continues to impress at a very reasonable price.

Finalists: Durex Avanti Bare Real Feel, Trojan Supra BareSkin Non-Latex

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Intimate Apparel

Best Men’s Underwear

BN3TH Cascade Boxer Brief

If everything goes right on your date, the other person will get to see your underwear. So it only makes sense to go into the meeting wearing a nice pair. For our money, a better pair than BN3TH’s boxer briefs will be hard to come by. They’re immensely comfortable, quite durable, and available in a cornucopia of designs, so you can pick ones that line up just right with your personal aesthetic — or the vibe of the person you’re undressing for.

Finalists: AllCitizens Elite II Boxer Brief, Saxx Droptemp Cooling Cotton Briefs

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Best Men’s Jockstrap

Savage X Fenty Shadow Fit Jock Strap

Is there anything Rihanna can’t do? If there is, jockstraps aren't one of them. Her Savage X Fenty clothing line has produced a seriously sweet jockstrap, so if a completely backless pair of underwear that looks good, feels good, and won’t stay on you for too long is what the mood is calling for, pick up a pair of the Shadow Fit and make your way on down to Sexy Town.

Finalists: MeUndies Jockstrap, Calvin Klein Cotton Stretch Jockstrap

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Best Men’s Lingerie

Versace Border Thong

Sorry, did we say Sexy Town? Versace’s Border Thong is Sexy City, capital of Sexonia. If you’re feeling confident about the chances of things ending in a bedroom, wearing a thong is a power move. But don’t just wear any thong; wear a pair of these. The look on their face when your pants come off will be worth it.

Finalists: Skull & Bones Dutch Floral Mesh Trunk, Secret Male SMC006 Bodystocking

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