SEX IS DIFFERENT FROM LOVE MAKING

The issue of sex and lovemaking is one we can not ignore or treat with kids gloves, it is delicate and important therefore we can't keep pretending about it or shying away from it whenever it is mentioned

As Christians we are not expected to have sex while courting but that doesn't mean you should not talk about it and read up good materials about sex or even visit a sex therapist to talk about it as well

You also need to understand your sexuality and know what you want sexually, how far you can go during sex, your body make up, how you need to be sexually handled but we tend to shy away from this and when we get married ie both male and female; we mess up big time from honeymoon to the rest of our days as couples

And instead of speaking to a matured healthy Christian to help us out, we blame the devil or our partner for the failure we tend to experience in our sexual lives

Anybody can have sex but only few can MAKE LOVE

LOVE MAKING IS AN ART BEFORE IT IS PRACTICED AS AN ACT

If you do not understand lovemaking as an ART then you will fail in the ACT of making love, sex is spiritual first then physical. Many fail in the ACT of making love because they assume it is all about removing clothes and putting the penis in the vagina and move in and out and after few minutes or more, the deed is done and the guy gets up and leaves.

While some guys feel it is all about having a big dick that they can use to DICKMATISE a woman and so on, but it's not about the size of the Penis, DO YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH IT AND HOW TO USE IT TO MAKE A WOMAN FEEL LIKE A WOMAN, GET HER SATISFIED, MESMERISE HER G-SPOT AND HELP HER CUM? or you think it's about banging her like a carpenter on the roof top in a hurry to nail the zincs and come down before the rain meets him while he is up there?

Christian brothers(married) do not know how to kiss, fondle and caress their wives, many rape their wives and feel they are satisfying her, a woman can SCREAM PAINFULLY OR MOAN PLEASURABLY.. IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU ARE DOING TO HER, and the truth is that most women love sex but have lost imterest in it because of the way their men treat them in bed 

You kiss so roughly, squeeze her breast like an unripe orange that has no water in it, no proper and adequate FOREPLAY before lovemaking, you are impatient to even check or know if she is "wet enough" before penetration, and if she is not, you do not care as long as you are satisfied..nothing and no one else matters

You put off the light while having sex with your partner, she can't touch you or fondle your nipples or penis as her husband, it is always missionary style with you as the "man and head on top", sex is always in the bedroom, no SEXUAL SPICE, you have refused to explore other sexual possibilities and you will not allow her explore some of it with you, "GIVING HER A HEAD" is an abomination before you, ALLOW HER GIVE you a BJ is a sin too, tell me why sex won't be boring?

What you do is "Dutiful sex and not Beautiful sex and lovemaking

Your partner is satisfied when the person says so not when you think so

There is foreplay before lovemaking and there is foreplay after that but you do not engage in any at all, after you are done and down from on top of her, you sleep off leaving her " unsatisfied, high and dry"

If you have proper orientation about sex and you have a good communication, you will know and understand what your partner wants and how to handle them sexually while making love

Learn to allow your partner guard you on how to make love to them, do not shut your ears while making love and keep doing it your way, learn to listen to your partner's body language and moves, what they say during the act and ask if you are doing it right and be open to learn

You will not understand all of these by watching pornographic movies, because those people are acting, and they are selfish without considering the feelings of their partner

You have no business using pornography to handle your partner in bed, talk to each other and know what they want and be open to make sexual adjustments to meet your partner's sexual needs

I know there is no predefined way to make love but aside anal sex which is wrong, you can explore and enjoy each others body sexually and please be gentle while at it.. From the kissing, to cuddling, fondling, caresing and the lovemaking proper

While sex has to do with just the body alone, lovemaking trascends the body

When you make love to a woman mentally, psychologically, emotionally and otherwise, you will not struggle to access her body

Touch her soul, spirit and her body will be all yours.