Now That My Husband Is Finally Behaving Well, He Annoys Me Even More

My husband is behaving well now. He is doing all the right things. He is open with his phone, he comes home on time, his words are gentle. But here …

Relationship Nov 28, 2025 0 1 Add to Reading List

Now That My Husband Is Finally Behaving Well, He Annoys Me Even More

My husband is behaving well now. He is doing all the right things. He is open with his phone, he comes home on time, his words are gentle.

But here is my truth: I’ve forgiven him, but I am pained by what he has done.

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We got married last December, and it has been a beautiful dream of a marriage. He is a good husband, and I am a good wife too. I’m not one to blow my own horn, but I’ve been a good wife. Food? Check. In the bedroom? Double check. Taking care of the house? I am up there, check.

On July 1st, my husband was careless with his phone for the first time, and it fell into my hands by the grace of God. Of course, I went snooping to see what was there. I found out that my husband is actually behaving like a baby again in front of his junior colleague. This girl is serving the nation in Ghana, and my own husband is using all the tricks under the sun, the one under Pluto, to get her to say yes to him. He wants her to serve under him, hm. But I want to give it up for the lady; she is doing the Lord’s work for me. She is literally ignoring this man. One day she’s passing corners, today something, tomorrow something else. She knows how to be cautious and was dragging the conversation out.

Had I seen certain signs before? Ah, yes! I saw the way he wouldn’t pick up the calls when I was around. He would let it ring and ring, his face looking like he’d seen a ghost. And then, the night messages. He would sometimes wake up at night, the phone light glowing on his face, tapping away replies while he thought I was deep in sleep.

I saw chats where my husband told the lady how much he wanted to sleep with her if she would allow it. Something in me broke that day. Maybe it was my heart, or my ribs, but something did break. When I confronted him, he stepped out of the house. The way he rushed out. Thank God no car threw him off the road.

So, me too, I picked up the lady’s number and called her. I didn’t call to fight her. I just told her, “I have left my husband for you, come and take him and be the woman he wants.” It was then she told me she didn’t know she was involved with a married man. The lie my husband told her! This man said I am dead, as in dead, and he is a widower, still nursing his wounds. That was why he still wore his wedding ring. My mouth was left open, ajar, but I had nothing more to say after that.

When he returned, he was on his knees, apologising profusely. “I’m sorry, I beg you.” Oh, what kind of apology did I not hear from this man? The only thing he didn’t do was promise me heaven. He even confessed to our counselor, which surprised me because he never likes others to know about our issues. The counselor called both of us, apologized on his behalf, and warned him.

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My husband has since taken serious steps to be more open with me. From the way I am seeing things, he doesn’t seem to want to hide anything from me anymore. At least to the best of my knowledge. Or maybe he has gotten better at hiding it.

The problem now is that something feels off with me. I’ve realized I get moody easily when he’s around. Sometimes, I just shut him out and prefer to stay in my corner. If he breathes, I hate it. If he walks past me, I dislike him even more. Everything about that man pisses me off. I’ve tried talking to him about it, and all he does is apologize, which is very annoying now. I want to be myself again. To the best of my knowledge, I’ve forgiven him, but I am pained by what he has done.

I honestly don’t know how to deal with it. I want to let go and not feel sad or angry anymore, because that isn’t me.