My Husband Is Disrespecting Me Because Of His Nephew

A while ago, my husband’s nephew, who had been away hustling for almost three years, called him. He said life was very difficult for him and he needed transport money to come and see us. My husband sent him the money. I didn’t think much of it because helping a family member in need is normal. I also didn’t know that the boy intended to stay with us.

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When he arrived and I noticed he was settling in, I asked my husband about it. His response was very casual, “The boy is just passing through.” But weeks have passed, and he is still here.

One evening, I asked my husband again about the situation. Instead of giving me a simple explanation, he became angry and walked out of the room. I was shocked because all I wanted was clarity. Later, when he went to the hall, I texted him to continue the conversation. I thought communicating via text would calm things down.

My heart nearly stopped when I saw the replies. These are some of the things he sent:

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“You have very bad fashion and am not going to continue like that so you better think twice. I was with my brother before I know you, so you will not be the one to tell me what to do. I don’t live with greedy woman. You will never be the one to separate my family.”

I knew it wasn’t my husband typing because my husband has a very distinct way of spelling, and he is not good at spelling or constructing proper sentences. Also, the tone was nothing like him. It was so obvious the nephew was the one sending those messages, but what hurts me most is that my husband allowed it. He gave his phone to the boy to speak to me like that.

I am dying inside.

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Right now, my husband is behaving as if I did something wrong. All I asked for was communication and basic respect as a wife. I am not telling him to send his nephew away. I just wanted him to talk to me first before making decisions about who stays in our home, even if it’s family. It’s our home, not just his.

I don’t know how to address this. I feel disrespected that he keeps dismissing my feelings on the matter. How should I handle this situation?

—Ama

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