How to (kindly) ask people not to post your kids' photos on social media

A 27-year-old grad student was just caught using pictures of real kids on the internet to make AI child porn for pedophiles. Even more disgusting? He worked by request. This story made my skin crawl, and it brings me to a question I’ve been asked more and more often.

"Kim, I don't want pictures of my kids on social media. How do I tell friends and family not to post them without sounding preachy?"

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You’re totally justified in wanting your kids’ faces off the web. It's a fact that creeps scan public accounts looking for kids to prey on. It's also easier than ever for pedophiles to pose as a kid and groom your child on Snapchat, Roblox — you name it.

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Posting your kids to Facebook or Instagram basically gives Meta the thumbs-up for using those images to train its AI models. The law is way behind here. As a parent, it’s up to you to protect your kids.

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Save yourself an awkward situation by telling people before a big get-together. Most folks mean well, but they might not know the risks of sharing kids’ photos online, especially if they’re not parents themselves. 

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I wrote up an example you can copy:

"Hey, I wanted to let you know ahead of time we’d like to keep photos of the kids off the internet for privacy and safety reasons. (We saw some stories that really spooked us!) If you could avoid putting pics of them on social media, we’d really appreciate it!"

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Don’t panic. Reach out ASAP and ask them to remove it with a link to the specific post. I’d go with a text. A comment on a public post feels like you’re calling them out.

Use this: "Hey, I totally forgot to mention this, but we're keeping pictures of the kids offline for now. Could you take this post down or repost it with their faces hidden? An emoji works great! 

Related: Posting pics of kids on social media: Do’s and don’ts

Not sharing photos of your kids publicly doesn’t have to mean not sharing at all. My suggestion: Make an invite-only album for close family and friends. 

In Google Photos: You can do this on your phone or computer. Just open the Google Photos app or website.

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Final step: Make sure the Link Sharing toggle is off for maximum privacy, so only invited users can view the album.

In Apple Photos: You can create and share on your iPhone, iPad or Mac using the Photos app. First, you need to enable Shared Albums.

Now create and share your album.

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