COMMON MISTAKES LADIES MAKE IN A RELATIONSHIP (EPISODE 7 & 8) 

As soon as Emmanuel packed and left the hostel, i felt very empty and it looked as if i had lost something precious, cos i really had gotten used to his presence. I couldn’t even stay five minutes without thinking about him, nor stay an hour without flashing or calling his phone.

Seriously it really appeared as if my whole life depended on him and that was equally when i started to notice some changes in him.

His phone calls drastically reduced to the extent of twice on a very good week, which i really didn’t care about, since i did most of the calling, but the one which pained me the most was when he didn’t call me on my birthday, but only sent me a text message which got me extremely annoyed……

“How can a text message be compared to his sweet voice?” i had asked myself throughout that day as i waited patiently for his phone call which never came. Yet with tears in my eyes i read his text message over and over again till i finally slept that fateful night without hearing his voice.

“Or was he waiting for me to call him on my own birthday?” i wondered sorrowfully.

It really was very disheartening to receive phone calls from friends who meant nothing to me, while the person i called my boyfriend found it very hard to call me and that moment was equally when i began to have serious doubts about him.

“Did i truly choose the right person?” i asked myself over and over again that fateful night.

I didn’t expect him to buy me jewels, nor clothes, because i knew he just graduated, but all i wanted was just to hear his voice that particular day which was very hard for him to satisfy me with.

I couldn’t control my emotions the following day and with a shaking hand, i dialed his phone number.

“Hey baby, what’s up?” he asked when he picked his phone, but due to my anger i couldn’t answer him, but instead poured out my unhappiness to him.

“You have really changed! You can’t even call me on my birthday, you are very heartless, please don’t call my number again!”

I poured out to him before ending the call. Even though i shouted at him, i really had expected him to call me back. So I held my phone hopefully, thinking that he would call back but he equally found it too difficult to call back. I really can’t describe how i felt that moment, because i was more than devastated. He finally called me around 9pm, but due to my anger i refused to answer my phone, which rang five times before a text message came in.

The text message was from him and when i read it, i nearly fainted.

“I know it will come to this one day but i never expected it could be so soon, anyway goodluck with your life, i know you are with another guy that’s why you are not answering your phone. I won’t disturb you again just as you ordered”

The text message he sent me really smote my heart and tears dropped out from my eyes as I read it over and over again.

“So Emmanuel had never trusted me”, i said to myself as i cried and the urge to call him back and beg him that moment was so great, that i had to drop my phone.

“Life why are you this cruel?” i heard myself ask. Mariam my roomate rushed to my side with concern written all over her face but i said nothing as i handed my phone to her. Her face equally turned white as she read the text message Emmanuel sent me.

“Hmmmm so so cruel”, i said to myself as all the memories kept flashing back……

“Baby girl, this text message shouldn’t depress you nah. I believe he is just angry, you know how guys behave sometimes” Mariam tried to console me but yet i was unable to stop myself from crying that night.

The following morning, she called him with her own phone but he refused to answer which really surprised Mariam and all she did was just to shrug and shake her head.

“Don’t get yourself worked up over him, he should be the person to cry for you, so dear lets forget about him and prepare for market, you know our food stuffs has finished” she said to me as she expertly changed the topic.

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Emmanuel never called me, neither did i see him for the rest of that year but i soon pushed him to the back of my mind as i focused all my energy in my studies, which was why i came to school in the first place and not to fall in love with someone who doesn’t deserve me.

However that period was very traumatic for me, beause i woke up sometimes feeling very lonely. What really kept me going was my determination to get over him as i swore not to be so easily used again. Although i couldn’t really believe that a guy like Emmanuel, who took me when i was very pure could easily forget me, as if i never existed. This equally made my heart very strong and hard towards guys that most of them avoided me because of my cold behaviour towards them.

It was also because of my past with Emmanuel, which made me to pack out from my former hostel and move into the hostel where i met Samuel.

Hmmm Samuel. The guy who softened me a bit and made my heart beat fast again.

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“Hope I’m not making a major mistake again?” i asked myself as i tossed around on my bed but then i really didn’t know how his charms were able to soften my heart and turn me back to a sweet girl capable of loving again.

I was still thinking about him when my phone rang briefly and stopped, when i checked the caller, it was no other person than Samuel who had flashed me. A smile appeared on my face.I checked the time it was 12:15am.

“Why is he awake by this time of the night? Is he thinking about me?” i asked myself with a smile, and i was still pondering over it when sleep finally carried me away.

Oh my Samuel……

EPISODE 8;

“I like Samuel very much, but i’m scared of making another mistake” i confessed to Mariam, on our way back to our hostel from school the following day, while she just smiled,

“Sometimes i don’t understand you” i heard her say, which made me to stare at her in surprise,

“What do you mean?” i asked,

“Nothing oo jare” she replied, which only made me more curious to know what she had in mind,

“Nawa for you, tell me what you have in mind nah?” i insisted, and she stared at me for a while, with a very serious look on her face,

“Your problem with Emmanuel happened last year, what i don’t understand is why you are still mourning him, and equally punishing yourself till now” she said, which really shocked me immensely……..

“Who told you i’m still mourning Emma or punishing myself?” i asked seriously,

“Isn’t it obvious that you are, it’s been months since you last had a guy in your life, which kind of punishment is more than that?” she fired back,

“Abeg oo, it’s no punishment to me, i’m single and happy” i replied with a smile, while she laughed for a while…….

“Comot there jare! pretender, don’t tell me that crap again jor” she said with laughter, while i eyed her…….

One thing i really do love about my friend Mariam, is her honest and blunt nature, and she never hid her feelings from me, even for a single day, though sometimes she may be annoying,

“If you like, continue to play hide and seek with that poor boy’s feelings, i have nothing else to tell you again” she added, while i slapped her shoulder,

“Madam it’s okay nah” i replied her……..

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Falling in love for the second time isn’t that easy, especially when you have been so terribly dealt with, the first time, but then love is an inevitable force of attraction which do come to every human being, and when it comes, carries your whole body, soul and even sense of reasoning with it………

Truly i was so scared of being hurt again, cos i knew i barely managed to survive my first heart break, which really wasn’t easy for me and seriously i equally didn’t know how my friends, especially Mariam were able to jump from one relationship to another without any emotional break down,

“How i wish i could just be like them” i had often said countless times, but then i really couldn’t be like them, because we are not the same…….

We soon got to our hostel, where Mariam gave me a sweet smile before going to her own room, which she shared with her boyfriend

“Take care, i will come to your room later” she said as she smiled……..

As i unlocked my door, Samuel came out from his own room, with a sweet smile on his face,

“Finally you are back, i have been lonely all day” he said as he came towards me, while i stared at him with a smile, and i felt like hugging him that moment, as my body yearned for his arms around me, but i kept myself in check, and swallowed my wishes, because i equally knew he had no morale to hug me in that manner in a hostel corridor,

But surprisinly he drew close and hugged me, which really drew out dimples from my face,

“I couldn’t sleep last night because i was thinking about us” i equally heard him whisper……

“Hmmm love is full of surprises”….

We entered my room together, where he sat quietly on my bed and watched as i quickly prepared rice that afternoon, because i returned from school with hunger. But the way he stared at me that afternoon really made me to lose concentration a couple of times and equally made me uncomfortable…….

“Please stop staring at me nah” i finally muttered while he laughed,

“But i can’t stop myself from staring at you nah” he replied with my tone, which made me to sigh with a smile,

“You better go back to your room and watch your t.v, since you are looking for who to watch” i fired back while he laughed out loud

“Watching you cook is more interesting than any t.v programme” he joked while i eyed him,

“Big head” i cursed

“Flat nyash” he cursed back,

“Na there your eyes go see fast” i replied, while he fell on the bed as he laughed,

“Madam cook fast, i’m very hungry” he said as he laughed,

“I’m not your mother” i replied, as i eyed him…….

After cooking, i freshened up in my bathroom, before dishing out the rice i cooked on a large plate. We ate together in silence and the way he ate really told me that he was actually hungry…..

“You cook nice but my mum cook’s better sha” he finally joked with a smile when he was filled up, while i eyed him,

“Because you don fill you stomach nah, why didn’t you make that comment earlier?” i asked with an angry mien, while he smiled,

“Hope there is still some left in the pot?” he also asked,

“Why are you asking?” i asked back with a frown,

“Because i will still eat at night nah” he replied, while i sighed with a smile, seriously that boy’s head needed to be spanked that moment……..

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We were soon in his room where we joked and laughed as we watched a movie and i really was very glad that he finally was able to feel free with me……..

Then he made a statement which shocked me

“This is my first time of being this close with a girl” he confessed as he swallowed hard, while i stared at him in silence, because i really knew not how to react or what to say, but then his eyes really said it all as he looked into mine……..

“So Samuel is actually a virgin, how i wish i had kept mine till now also” i said to myself, as i stared back at him with a fast b

eating heart…….

-To be continued-