True Life Story: My Girlfriend Refused To Change Her Bad Character

True Life Story: My Girlfriend Refused To Change Her Bad Character

Hi Lively Stones,

My girlfriend and I are pushing almost one year of relationship now. Recently, she started the marriage talk of when are we getting married, bla bla bla. I love this girl alot, she is beautiful and s3xy but I do not think she is a wife material. And the truth is, I have told her several times that she acts very childish and spoilt. I told her if she does not change some of her characters, there will be no future for us.

Anytime I complain, instead of her to change, she will start emotional blackmail. She says that is how she is, that I am trying to control her or change her into something she is not. This girl is very pretty but also very untidy. I am a very tidy person but anytime she is in my place, she leaves the whole place unkept, I got tired of talking and just arrange the place after I have talked and talked yet she will not  change.

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The worst part is when she is on her period. Throughout that time, she hardly takes her bath well, she will be smelling. When I talk to her about it, she says because of her menstrual pain, that she cannot bathe very well. Yes, during her period, she has pains but does that mean she should not bathe properly. I used to send her back to her place if her period starts in my place. She will use that opportunity to say I am inhuman, that I am not showing love or support for her pain.

But this same girl, she can press phone for Africa. Always on social media but too lazy to be tidy. She says she wants to go into social media influencing as a career. Is that a reasonable career that someone who went to University can do? I never used to mind if the woman I marry does not work but you see this economy now eh….Its not smiling anymore. I need her to be more industrious but she wants soft life. I don’t know, maybe we can manage or what do you think?

Lastly, I observed something, its like she is trying to tie me down with pregnancy. But I have told her that if she gets pregnant for me, I will claim the child but I am not ready for marriage until she changes. A few months ago, she got pregnant and I told her, no problem, if you want to keep the baby, its fine but that is all. She got dramatic, that I put her in the family way and I want to abandon her. What is my issue, did I get her pregnant alone? Did she not know to use contraceptive? Did I not clearly tell her that I am not ready for marriage?

All these things, she used to insult me, that me , that I am very insensitive. She got angry and went to get an abortion. She used that one too to try to blackmail me, telling me I am wicked, bla bla bla…after two months, she came back. I admit, she is too sweet in the other room…and she knows how to make me happy with her gisting sha….maybe its just her nature but that is why I can’t ignore her when she comes back to me. But all these her character is not what I want in a wife.

Now she is telling my friends that I am using her ….that I am wicked…that she aborted for me…that I don’t want to marry her cos I am making flimsy excuses. The character is not flimsy excuses. I think she cannot change at all…she is naturally lazy and dirty and she can’t change. Last week, I had a discussion with her and told her that we should break up for good. This girl got so upset, she started breaking things in my apartment. I was so upset that I beat her up.

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It was a mess, a terrible one. After fighting, we ended up passionate  f#cking. Me, now,…I am confused. I love her yet I h@te her character. Since all these days, I am just thinking, maybe I should forget about her bad character flaws and marry her because I love her. She makes me very angry but I can’t stay away from her and she can’t stay away from me. That fight we had turned us on so much. The next few days after, I discovered we became more aggressive in s3x. I realized that we both love aggressive f#cking.

Maybe this is a sign that there is no perfect person out there….my pet peeve is dirty environment but maybe I have too much love for this girl…will that be enough to cope with this crazy girl? I need your advise.

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