If I Were A Single Lady Between 18-27years of Age, I Will Avoid These 7 Mistakes If I Don’t Want To Regret It Before I Get To 30

If I Were A Single Lady Between 18-27years of Age, I Will Avoid These 7 Mistakes If I Don’t Want To Regret It Before I Get To 30.

As a toddler, nothing concerns you with relationships. 

But the moment you are between 18–27 just consider that your life’s launchpad. Decisions here will either prepare you for peace or package you for premium tears at 30.

I know you can right your wrongs but do you want your life to become a laboratory experiment before you learn? 

Nwanne, avoid these 7 potholes if you don’t want to cry blaaad:

1. Spending your “building years” on frivolities.

Hanty, for instance, looking pretty is great. But don’t spend your entire 20s curating selfies and ignoring skills.

Looks will bring attention. Men will gather like houseflies around you but to avoid being used and dumped, value will get the best genuinely interested in you. 

The world doesn’t owe you soft life, you build it.

So learn a skill and build something. You can start small. Even your “kitchen business” can become a brand.

2. Dating men you have to manage like broken appliances.

At 25, you shouldn’t be a in relationship with a guy that is inconsistent or the one that has ghosted you 4 times. To add to the p@in, he is now emotionally unavailable.

Annoyingly, you’re still saying, “Maybe he’ll change.”

Hmmm…you’re not the Holy Spirit. Stop trying to fix grown men.

If he’s not ready, respect yourself and leave before 30 meets you confused and drained.

3. Following the “men are scum” online committee.

Yes, heartbreak hurts. But don’t generalize all men because of one “Kunle” with anger issues.

Healing is your responsibility.

Bi!terness will block you from recognizing the good one when he shows up.

Don’t let pain become your personality. Choose the option that leads to healing and along the line, you will open your heart again but this time, with sense.

4. Living online and wasting time.

You’re in every gossip blog comment section, typing and writing rubbish to the point that you can’t stay off social media for 30 minutes.

But your CV is dry, and your brain is bored.

You’re scrolling through other people’s success while postponing your own.

If i were you, i will balance my online energy and use my 20s to build a real life not just an aesthetic one.

5. Thinking marriage will fix you.

Small madam, marriage is not a rescue mission. If you’re lazy, entitled, insecure, or directionless now, wedding bells won’t change that.

Take a look at yourself and fix your mindset. Fix your habits also and truly become the kind of woman who can thrive with or without marriage.

Marriage should meet you whole not hoping for repair. No reasonable man needs such stress because he married you. 

6. Stop confusing exposure with maturity.

Yes you’ve travelled. You wear Zara and other designers. Your wig even cost more than a truck load of cement.

But that doesn’t mean you have sense.

Wisdom isn’t about passport stamps and ability to speak English, it’s about decisions.

Nne, grow emotionally and mentally so that you will know how to manage conflict and also know how to say no to Emeka when he starts telling you one thing one thing. That’s maturity.

7. Putting God on 'Do Not Disturb'.

You love partying to the point that you will spend days and months planning and even pepper online watchers with pictures but you don’t know how to pray nor do you have the fruits of the spirit evident in your life. 

You quote “grace” but ignore discipline.

And now you're asking, “Why is life hard?”

Small madam, you need God more in your 20s than ever.

He’s not just for Sundays, He’s for your decisions, your circle, your sanity.

Don’t blow your foundation, then start looking for spiritual cement at 30.

I hope you will understand that these years are not for waiting, they’re for becoming.

Don’t be that lady who wakes up at 30 asking,

“Where did all the time go?”

Use these years to build your mind, guard your heart, invest in purpose, and choose your circle wisely.

Because 30 is not scary, but arriving unprepared is.

© Stanley Oduah

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