I Wrote to Him to Support the Kids, He Said Nothing — Nigerian Mother of Four in Canada Cries Out After Husband Abandons Her and the Children Following Divorce

A Nigerian mother of four based in Canada has taken to social media to openly explain the painful events that led to the collapse of her marriage.

The woman, identified as Ada Igbo, revealed that her marriage crumbled after she discovered that her husband had impregnated their maid, a revelation she described as the final straw in an already troubled union. According to her, the betrayal shattered her trust completely and made it impossible for the marriage to continue.

Ada explained that leaving the marriage was not an easy decision, especially as a mother of four. However, she stated that staying would have caused more emotional harm to herself and her children. She also shared that leaving her children entirely in the care of their father was not an option she felt comfortable with.

She further disclosed that it has been over a year since she walked away from the marriage. During this time, she said she reached out to her estranged husband for financial support to help care for the children, but her requests were allegedly ignored. According to her, his family also failed to intervene or offer any form of assistance.

She wrote: “January 4th makes it one full year since I left my marriage with my children.
And ever since, people keep saying:
“You shouldn’t be taking care of those kids alone.”
“Their father should be providing.”
“Why didn’t you leave them with him?”
“Why don’t you send them back to Nigeria?”
Let’s remove one thing immediately: leaving my children with their father is not an option. So let’s scrap that.
Yes, their father should be providing. I agree.
That’s why I wrote him a letter asking for financial support.
He read it.
He ignored it.
He said nothing.
His family said nothing.
Till today, silence.
So now I want to genuinely ask those who keep talking:
Since I “shouldn’t carry the burden alone,” what exactly should I do?
Drop my children on the main road and go and live my life?
Hand them over to someone who has chosen to be absent?
Return them to a situation I left to protect them?
People talk like single parenting is a choice I woke up and made for fun.
As if I didn’t first try communication.
As if responsibility can be forced on a man who has decided to be mute.
This is a sincere question:
How do you make a man who has chosen to be a deadbeat suddenly become involved in his children’s lives?
Because from where I’m standing, I didn’t choose to do this alone.
I was left with no other safe option.
And until someone gives me a realistic answer, I will continue choosing my children over people’s opinions.
It’s 4days to Christmas and I decided to scream out hopefully I get help”