Am I Stingy For Not Overspending on Her Parents?

We’ve dated for over a year and finally decided we would go and meet her parents so she does the formal introduction to them. She sent me a list of things we should buy, which I understood because we can’t go and visit them empty handed.

I had my own budget of GHC1,000, which I was not going to overspend. Now, she’s trying to make me buy all the things on the list, which are way beyond my budget. That aside, she wants me to put GHC500 in an envelope and give to them when we get there.

I told her my budget and told her I couldn’t spend more than that. She got angry, saying, “You’re visiting your future in-laws and all you’re planning to spend is GHC1,000?”

Nanka, how much should I spend?

This is not knocking, ooo. It’s not the engagement. It’s just a visit to say hello to them and introduce myself as the one dating her. That’s all. Now she’s telling me I’m not ready for the visit so I should hold on until I’m properly ready.

I told her, “I’m fully ready. We go now or never.” She answered, “So be it.”

Because of this, she’s giving me attitude. What’s wrong with me cutting my coat according to my material? Or am I being stingy?

—Alfred

This story you just read was sent to us by someone just like you. We know you have a story too. Email it to us at submissions@silentbeads.com. You can also drop your number and we will call you so you tell us your story.

*****