7 WAYS A HUSBAND INJURES A WIFE WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING IT

Most husbands I know would never injure their wife knowingly. They want to be her protector. But we guys are different than women, and the way we respond to our wife often causes injury. 

And, most of the time, it’s unintentional. We didn’t even know we were doing it. When we don’t realize the damage we’re doing to our wives’ emotions, we invalidate every desire we have to be her defender. HERE ARE 7 WAYS A HUSBAND INJURES A WIFE (WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING IT):

1. Cuts her out of the discussion.

When you act as if she isn’t even there or wouldn’t understand what you’re talking about, she feels a part of her is detached. She sees the marriage as a partnership in every part of life–even the parts she may never fully understand.

2. Fails to notice the difference she makes.

A woman doesn’t want to be appreciated for only what she does. She wants you to appreciate who she is, but–admit it–she does a lot. 

Whether it’s decorating the house or making sure the clothes are clean, or that you have your favorite soap, a woman wants to know what she does is valued by you.

3. Underestimates the small stuff.

You only said “this,” but it was “THIS” to her. And it hurts. You may even think it’s funny. She may even laugh. 

But it is often building a wall of protection around her heart each time you do. The key here is that you can’t talk to her like you might talk to another guy. She hears and feels more deeply than you do. Words can and do hurt.

4. Speaks with curtness.

When you talk down to her, as if she’s somehow less than you, you bruise her spirit. Deeply. And, you know she’s not less than you . . . you don’t even think she is . . . but sometimes, she just can’t tell that based on the way you talk to her.

5. Corrects her as she’s talking.

This could be finishing her sentences or speaking for her in the company of others. 

She feels demeaned and devalued when you present her to others as if she can’t compete with you in original thought which you know isn’t true. (My wife is much smarter than me.)

6. Acts suspicious.

Don’t misunderstand or misapply this one. When you hide information, even when you think you’re protecting her, you cause her to question your motive. 

When you protect your calendar or act like you are upset at the question “What did you do today?” or “What did you talk about?” or “Who was that?” when someone calls, it gives her an eerie feeling something is wrong. And, that hurts.

7. Admires other women over her.

She sees you looking. She may even understand your highly visual make-up. It hurts her, however, when a glance becomes a stare especially when it happens everywhere you go all the time. 

She can bruise easily in some areas of her life, especially the places that involve the people she loves most. No matter how independent or strong your wife is, her heart is tender in places. Lots of places. She can bruise easily in some areas of her life, especially the places that involve the people she loves most, such as you. 

A husband who understands this is more careful in how he responds to her.I always like to use this thought as a reminder: Would I allow another man to speak to or treat my wife as I am doing? She’s a precious gift, guys . . . treat her well.