200+ Conversation Starters to Carry You Through Any Occasion

I don’t love talking with strangers. I’m an introvert at heart, and making an effort to engage in social interaction often drains my energy. But still, I do it. Not because I feel like I have to, but because while it can be exhausting, it’s equally energizing. Talking with new people or even people you know of but have never engaged with before is how connections are made, friendships are formed, and potential business partners and clients are identified.

Love it or hate it, chatting with people and making small talk is a necessary skill if you want to converse with strangers IRL at networking events, dinner parties, or even your local coffee shop—instead of solely through social media DMs and text. But just because it’s necessary doesn’t mean it’s an innate skill everyone possesses.

To help you start meaningful conversations that go beyond small talk, you need to have a few good conversation starters up your sleeve. And because I was equally as curious to have a few great conversation starters in my back pocket that spark memorable and interesting discussions, whether I’m at a dinner with friends or at a work event, I did the work so you don’t have to. Here are 200+ good conversation starters for any situation. 

Conversation Starters That Actually Work

Let’s be honest—starting a conversation isn’t always easy. Whether you’re meeting someone new, catching up with friends, or hanging out with family, it can feel a little intimidating to know what to say. That’s where conversation starters come in. Think of conversation starters as your go-to tools for breaking the ice and turning those awkward silences into fun, engaging moments. The right opener can help you connect more deeply—whether you’re on a first date, mingling at a party, or just wanting to spark a meaningful chat with the people you love. In this guide, you’ll find a mix of conversation starters for all kinds of situations, so you’ll never be stuck wondering what to say.

200+ Good Conversation Starters

We find ourselves in a lot of different situations throughout our lives that require very different ways to start a conversation. So, I’ve divided the list by different styles of great conversation starters to help you find the best conversation topics you may want to add to your list.

Easy Conversation Starters

Sometimes, we need an effortless way to get the conversation started. The next time you’re in need of something simple, try these.

• I really like your [insert anything the person has on them or with them]. Where did you get it?
• What’s your favorite thing to eat for breakfast?
• What restaurant do you always recommend to out-of-town guests?
• Are you a coffee or tea drinker?
• What musical artists are you loving right now?
• What are you currently reading?
• Do you have a favorite sport?
• What’s the last show you binged?
• What’s your go-to comfort show?
• Do you have a guilty pleasure TV show?
• What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to?
• Are you a morning person or a night owl?
• What podcasts do you like listening to?
• What’s your favorite holiday?
• What’s a band or artist you think more people should know about?
• Do you have any pets?
• Do you prefer chocolate or vanilla?
• Are you a sweet or savory treat person?
• What sports teams do you root for?
• Are you a beach or mountain person?
• Do you have any upcoming trips?
• What was the first cell phone you had?
• If someone were making a movie about your life, what actor would you want to play you?
• What’s the one app on your phone that you use the most?
• What’s the last picture you took on your phone?
• What are your kids really interested in right now?
• Where would you go if you could travel anywhere in the world with all expenses paid?
• Would you rather have a chauffeur or a personal chef as a gift for one month?
• What’s your least favorite household chore?
• Are there any new hobbies you’ve been dying to pick up?
• What was the last thing you bought?
• What’s your favorite thing you purchased in the last year?
• Do you believe in ghosts?
• What is your favorite candy?
• What is your favorite book?

Deep Conversation Starters

With the right audience, deep conversation starters are a meaningful way to dive into great conversations.

• When do you feel the most like yourself?
• Do you believe in soulmates?
• If someone were making a movie about your life, what chapter would you want them to start at?
• What life lesson took you the longest to unlearn?
• What piece of advice would you give your 22-year-old self?
• What did you want to be when you grew up?
• What advice would you give your younger self?
• If you could change one thing about the way you were raised what would it be?
• What’s a core memory from your childhood?
• Do you have siblings? What’s the dynamic like and what role do you play? What’s one thing you miss from your childhood?
• What’s one thing that used to be an insecurity but now you love about yourself?
• If money wasn’t a concern, how would you spend your ideal day?
• Education, experience, and money aside, what is your dream job?
• What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
• What’s something you’re currently struggling with?
• What is one thing you’re grateful for right now?
• If you could go back in time and change one thing, what would it be?
• What motivates you?
• Imagine sitting at a table with all the older versions of yourself. What do you think you would talk about? What would they be most proud of you for?
• If you were frozen in time, when would you want to be unthawed?
• If someone came to you for advice, what would the topic be?
• Biggest difference between your current decade and your previous one?
• What’s a compliment you received that really stuck with you?
• If you could change one thing about yourself, with the caveat that it can’t be anything physical, what would it be?
• When was the last time you cried?

Conversation Starters For Texting

Not all conversations start in person. And while AIM isn’t a thing anymore (am I dating myself?), texting is. If you’ve exchanged numbers with someone after a successful first meeting and are not sure where to take the conversation next, try these fun conversation starters.

• If you had to pick a meme that basically sums up your week, what would it be?
• I need to know your opinion on… *insert topic*
• I’ve been wanting to get into podcasts more. What are some you love listening to?
• You won’t believe what just happened! *insert story*
• What’s your favorite Trader Joe’s snack?
• This is random, but *insert story*
• Do you have any *insert topic* recommendations?
• How did *insert topic* go? (try to tie in something from your in-person conversation)
• I have nothing to watch. Any recommendations?
• What’s the most random fun fact you know off the top of your head?
• What are your most used emojis?
• If you had to choose a song to describe your vibe, what would it be?
• This *random thing* reminded me of you
• What’s been your favorite part of the day so far?
• What are your green flags?
• Do you have any plans for this weekend?
• How many photos are on your camera roll?
• What’s your favorite local restaurant?

“Think of conversation starters as your go-to tools for breaking the ice and turning those awkward silences into fun, engaging moments.”

Work Conversation Starters

You may need good conversation starters in the office, at interviews, or even when working remotely. Or maybe you’re looking for networking conversation starters for your next event. No matter where you use them, do your best to keep the conversation professional.

• Do you have a go-to method for tackling busier workdays?
• Any social pages you like following for career advice or professional growth tips?
• What did you do over the weekend to unwind?
• What’s a tool or app you use that makes your work life way easier?
• Are you working on an exciting project right now?
• What’s the best team-building activity you’ve ever been a part of?
• What do you like to listen to when you’re working?
• Do you prefer standing desks or sitting desks?
• What’s your got-to Starbucks order for a mid-day pick-me-up?
• What was your very first job?
• What is the best professional development book you’ve ever read?
• What is your favorite work-related podcast?
• What one skill you’re currently working on?
• What’s one thing you wish you could tell your younger self when you started this career?
• If you could work from anywhere, where would you work from?
• What are your desk must-haves?
• What’s the best piece of career advice you’ve ever received?
• What’s your favorite part about working at your current company?
• What has been the most enjoyable networking event you’ve attended?
• How does your team measure success?
• What are some hidden talents or hobbies you have that not many people at work know about?

Family Conversation Starters

Conversations with family can feel safe and warm (or at least that is my hope for you). If you’re in a comfortable environment with those you love, it’s delightful to get the conversation going with questions centered around your family, past gatherings, and enjoyable memories.

• If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?
• What’s your favorite family gathering you’ve ever been to?
• What’s the best gift you’ve ever received?
• What’s your favorite movie from your childhood?
• Who in the family would survive a zombie apocalypse the longest?
• If you were stuck in an elevator full of family members, who are the five people you’d want to be trapped with?
• What about me continues to surprise you?
• What was your favorite subject in school and why?
• Who is someone who positively impacted your life but doesn’t even know it?
• Which family member cooks your favorite food?
• What’s your favorite childhood memory?
• What were your parents like when they were your age?
• How has our family dynamic changed over the years?
• What is something you wish we did more of as a family?
• Is there someone in our family you admire deeply? Why?
• If budget wasn’t an issue, what would your dream family vacation be?
• What are you most proud of?
• What family tradition did you love the most growing up?
• What’s the best piece of advice you heard this year?
• What’s the best thing about our family?
• If you had to give *insert family member* a superlative award, what would it be?
• If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
• What’s changed the most about me since I was a kid?
• What are you glad I inherited?
• If you could relive one moment of the past year, what would it be?
• What’s a gift you really wanted as a kid but never got?
• If we had to compete as a family, what Olympic sport do you think we could dominate at?
• If our family had a reality show, what would it be called?
• If our family were stranded on a deserted island, what three things would you want to have with you?
• What are you most proud of?

Flirty and Date-Worthy Conversation Starters

Are you on the apps and bored with all your Bumble conversation starters? Or are you looking for a way to freshen up your first date questions? Don’t worry. Try a few of these to get your flirt on.

• What’s the first thing you noticed about me?
• What’s your story?
• What do you look for in a partner?
• What’s something a stranger could do that would instantly catch your attention?
• What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to learn how to do?
• What’s your go-to karaoke song?
• If you could be anyone for a day who would you be and why?
• If you had to give your younger self advice, what would it be?
• What would be your theme song if you had to pick one song to play every time you walked into a room?
• How would you describe me to someone who hasn’t met me?
• What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
• What’s the worst date you’ve been on?
• What’s an important lesson a past relationship has taught you?
• What’s your biggest turn-on?
• If you took someone on a tour of your hometown, where would you take them and why?
• Do you believe in love at first sight?
• What’s the most attractive quality in a person?
• Who was your first kiss and what’s the story behind it?
• What’s your love language?
• What’s your favorite fictional love story?
• What’s something you could talk about forever?
• Are you the type to be friends with your ex?
• How many times have you been in love?

READ: 30+ Bumble Openers That Are Way Better Than “Hey”

READ: Questions to Help You Actually Get to Know Someone on a First Date

Party Conversation Starters

When it’s time to get the party started, you can often use conversation starters that are a bit more fun and adventurous. Try a few of these at your next gathering.

• How do you know the host?
• What’s your go-to drink order?
• Which reality show would you survive the longest on? Which of us do you think would die first?
• If you’re looking to have a good time, what’s the first thing you do?
• When was the last time you laughed so hard that you almost peed your pants? What happened?
• If you were a dog, what would breed would you be, and why?
• What would the title of your autobiography be?
• If you could star on any current television show, what show would you be on?
• If you were going to star in a movie, who would you want to be your costar?
• What’s a movie where you loved the original, but hated the sequel?
• If you had to live in one decade forever, which would it be?
• If you could host any reality show reunion, what would it be and why?
• What’s your real housewife tagline?
• Do you have a hidden talent?
• What’s the wildest conspiracy theory you secretly believe could be true?
• What songs would be played on a loop in hell?
• If you were invisible and could go anywhere, where would you go?
• What would you bring if you were stranded on an island and could only bring three things with you for entertainment?
• Who was the last person you stalked on social media?
• What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever Googled?
• What is the most famous true-crime story from your hometown?
• What’s the most expensive thing you’ve ever broken?
• What word do you always misspell?
• What product could you be a spokesperson for?
• Which celebrity would you most want to have coffee with? What would you ask them?
• If you could have any talent, what would it be and why?
• If you could build your dream home tomorrow, where would it be, and what are your must-haves for the design?

READ: 7 Tips for Having Meaningful Conversations That Go Beyond “How Are You?”

“Building lasting connections goes beyond just exchanging pleasantries—it’s about having conversations that matter.”

Road Trip Conversation Starters

Is there anything more fun than taking a road trip with good friends? If you’re traveling with someone, I’d like to think you’re already pretty well acquainted. But if you want to learn something fun and new about each other, try these questions.

• What’s the best trip you’ve ever been on?
• What’s a trip you want to take but haven’t had the chance to yet?
• Have many states and countries have you traveled to?
• What’s the most random roadside attraction you’ve ever stopped at?
• Who are your top artists on Spotify?
• What would you order for your last meal?
• If you had to travel with three fictional characters, who would make your best travel companions?
• If you could get tickets to any concert, whether the band/artist is dead or alive, who would it be?
• What is your favorite gas station snack?
• What’s a personal goal you’re trying to achieve?
• What are three words that best describe you?
• What’s a hot take you’ve been dying to share?
• What’s on your bucket list?
• If we hosted a podcast, what would we talk about?
• What music did you listen to in high school?
• What’s something random you wish you were better at?
• What song would you pick if you had to listen to one song for the entire car ride?
• Who’s your role model?
• Who’s the most famous person you’ve ever met?
• Who’s your current celebrity crush, and who was your first celebrity crush?
• If you could only subscribe to and watch one streaming service for the rest of the year, which one would you choose?
• If you were going to become immortal, at what age would you want to be when you stop aging?

Effective Conversation Techniques

Great conversations don’t just happen—they’re built on someone (you) knowing and asking the right questions. Whether you’re connecting with old friends or making new ones, the trick to a rich and engaging conversation always starts with a light and intentional conversation starter to kick things off. Start by asking about someone’s favorite movie on streaming right now, or a hobby that they love doing. These are the kind of questions that establish a safe and welcoming setting that makes it easy for everyone to want to join in.

Then, when you feel ready to take the conversation further, lean-on those deeper conversation starters that invite more thoughtful and meaningful responses—like asking about a favorite family tradition or meaningful life lesson they’ve learned recently. Open-ended questions are especially powerful here, as they encourage the other person to share more than just a yes or no answer. Most importantly, showing a genuine interest in what the other person is saying by listening actively and asking follow-up questions helps let the conversation flow naturally. Whether you’re talking with family, friends, or complete strangers, these techniques will help you create fun, memorable, and meaningful conversations that feel as natural as talking to a best friend.

READ: 9 Conversation Starters to Bring Up When You’re Getting to Know Someone

Overcoming Conversation Challenges

Even the best conversationalists sometimes hit a wall—stuck in small talk, or unsure how to keep the conversation going with that one friend of a friend you’re meeting for the first time. The key to overcoming these challenges is to mix things up with random conversation starters and thought-provoking questions. For example, asking about someone’s go-to karaoke song or their least favorite household chore, can reveal unexpected sides of their personality and add a playful twist to the conversation.

If you want to dig a little deeper, try asking about their favorite subject in school or their opinion on a current event. These thought-provoking questions can spark lively discussions and help you move beyond the surface-level chit-chat. Don’t be afraid to share your own stories and opinions, too. Opening up can encourage others to do the same, and helps make the conversation feel more genuine. Every conversation is an opportunity to learn something new and connect in a meaningful way, so it’s always best to stay open-minded!

Creating Lasting Connections

Building lasting connections goes beyond just exchanging pleasantries—it’s about having conversations that matter. To do this, try moving past the small talk and asking questions that invite the person to share more about their lives—like their favorite meal, a cherished holiday, or a favorite musical artist. Easy conversation starters, such as asking about someone’s favorite way to relax or their go-to comfort food, can help create that warm, welcoming atmosphere that leads into these more soulful questions, too. Wherever the conversation goes, don’t forget to listen with empathy, stay curious, and show genuine interest in their life. Whether you’re talking with a new friend or a longtime family member, relying on this kind of conversational foundation can help you build better connections that last.

Conversational Flow

A great conversation feels effortless—flowing naturally from one topic to the next. That said, sometimes achieving this conversational flow may feel more anxiety-ridden than effortless, but remembering to be present, responsive, and open to where the conversation might go is key.

Lean on transition phrases like “that reminds me” or “speaking of” to smoothly shift between subjects, and keep things lively with open-ended questions like “what do you think about…” or “how do you feel about…”. Fun conversation starters—asking about someone’s favorite sport or the music they love—can inject energy and keep things moving as well. It’s important to stay adaptable—letting the conversation evolve, following up on interesting points, and not being afraid to let your curiosity guide you. When both people are genuinely engaged, the conversation becomes more fun, memorable, and meaningful for everyone involved.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Danielle Doolen, Contributing Career Writer

Danielle Doolen is a writer and communications professional whose writing and expertise have appeared in Career Contessa, Insider, Motherly, PopSugar, PRSA Strategies & Tactics, The Financial Diet, Thrive Global, and more. In addition to being a freelance writer, Danielle works in corporate communications at a Fortune 500 automotive retailer, but her favorite role to date is being a mom.

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Madigan Will, Assistant Editor

As an Assistant Editor for The Everygirl, Madigan writes and edits content for every topic under the digital media sun. As the oldest of four siblings, she enjoys utilizing her big sister persona to connect and inspire readers—helping them discover new ways to maximize their everyday.

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