Women Share Why They Had Sex With Their Partner

What makes women get aroused enough to have sex with their partners? It’s a question that untold numbers of men have pondered over in the course of human history. Whether it’s about stimulating the desire of your brand-new girlfriend or your wife of several decades, if you’re horny and hoping to get some, it’s only natural that you’d start wondering what would get her in the mood. RELATED: What Women Find Sexy, Explained While being kind-hearted and thoughtful, going down on her, putting her needs first, and sure, a bouquet of flowers here and there are all great ideas you should never forget about it, not everything that turns women on is textbook material. In order to give you an idea of how varied these motives can be, we spoke to seven women about unexpected things that made them want to have sex with their partner — and then explained a little bit of what’s going on behind the scenes. 1. He Installed My Air Conditioner “It was 95 degrees and this guy installed my air conditioner and it was so sexy. But not just sticking the thing in the window. He talked me through the best BTU for the size of my apartment. Then, he talked down the sales guy when he came with me to buy it because I told him I had seen it online for cheaper. And then, he carried it the seven blocks back to my apartment and came up with different solutions for keeping me safe with this thing in the window since my apartment is on the first floor. Plus: he added extra insulation so that it'd stay really cool. And then obviously I tackled him.” — Debbie Why It’s Hot: Being good at something is often attractive, and especially when it’s something that’s got a little toughness to it. Lots of women find it hot when a guy’s handy with a toolkit, and when you use those skills to help them out, that’s extra seductive to many women. 2. He Told Me I Was Sexy “He does a few things that turn me on, randomly. Like, when we first wake up in the morning and I know I look like a pale, wrinkled prune and he tells me I’m beautiful and sexy. Or, when he first gets out of the shower and is drying off, and I can see his cute butt.” — Kristy Why It’s Hot: Whether your partner’s primary love language is words of affirmation or not, most people do enjoy hearing people say nice things about them. In a romantic context, hearing your partner gush about how hot you are is a big turn-on for a lot of people. It makes them feel desired and desirable at the same time. 3. He Was Hot Brushing His Teeth “Remember that scene in Bring It On when Kirsten Dunst is brushing her teeth with that guy? It sounds silly, but honestly, when we were brushing our teeth together, there was just something so damn sexy about it. I had to have him.” — Molly RELATED: Signs She's Interested in Having Sex With You Why It’s Hot: While many women do appreciate a man who takes care of his grooming and oral hygiene, that’s not what’s going on here. Brushing your teeth is a surprisingly intimate ritual, and sharing the bathroom with a partner late at night where you’re both looking at each other in the mirror and maybe not wearing a ton of clothing… Sounds surprising, but it could get steamy in a hurry if you play your cards right. 4. He Did the Damn Dishes “We’re new parents, so we are basically sleepless, exhausted and filled with joy 24/7. It’s awesome and hard. But one time, when I asked him to wash the dishes, he just did it. No complaints, no arguing, no delaying. That, right there, made me want to jump his bones… after the baby fell asleep.” — Nicole Why It’s Hot: It’s well established that women find it sexy when guys do their share of the housework. Not because there’s anything inherently hot about tackling the dishes, but because the legions of men who don’t put in the effort make guys who do look super sexy by comparison. 5. He Supported Women “He went on this long rant about sexism in the workplace, and how he’d be given credit for something his co-worker did and he hated it. As a feminist, it was so validating, awesome and really, really sexy to hear all of that from someone I love. I tell ya, feminism, it can get you laid, guys!” — Lauren Why It’s Hot: Women have to deal with a dating pool that’s full of guys who don’t believe in equal rights for women and show it in obvious and less obvious ways. In that context, being a non-performative, genuine male feminist isn’t only non-problematic, it’s downright hot. 6. He Remembered I Like Orange Juice With Pulp “After my boyfriend and I had been dating for about six months or so, I was spending the weekend over at his place and he got up before me. I didn’t think anything of it, he usually did, but when I finally rolled out of bed 30 minutes later, he was nowhere to be found. His phone was there, so I knew he couldn’t be too far, but I also couldn’t text him. Ten minutes later, he showed up, with a single plastic bag in hand and two coffees. When I gave him a puzzling look, he simply said, ‘We only had orange juice without pulp, and I know you like it with pulp, so I went and got you some.’ I told him to come back to bed immediately.” — Lucy RELATED: How to Improve Your Attractiveness Why It’s Hot: There’s nothing worse than dating someone who sees you as nothing more than a means to an end. When your partner remembers things about you and thinks about what you’d like, it’s a sign that they really care about you and are on the lookout for ways to make you happy. Simply put, that’s hot for a lot of women. 7. He Argued With Me (For a Good Reason) “Now, before you rush to conclusions here, normally, I would never like it if my boyfriend picked fights with me all the time. But this time, it was different. I was upset about something a friend had done that I thought was rude, and instead of just nodding along and feeding my fire, he asked me really pointed questions and played devil’s advocate with me until I calmed down. When I asked why he didn’t take my side, he said ‘This is one of your best friends, you don’t need to have trouble there. I want you to be happy.’ I kissed him hard and pulled my top down, right there.” — Melissa Why It’s Hot: It’s true that some people get a little excited by sparring, whether it’s verbal jousting or a little wrestling action that functions as a kind of foreplay. Seeing your partner’s strengths and passion can be a real turn-on for many people, and women are no different. In this context, where it’s standing up for something potentially important rather than just trying to be right about something, that can really get someone’s motor running. You Might Also Dig: How to Tell If a Girl Likes You 5 Types of Men Women Find Attractive The Difference Between Cute and Sexy