Openly Homosexual Michael Tait Recorded Apologizing to Sexual Assault Victim: “I Set Everything Around Me on Fire”

In 2005, Michael Tait (right) poses with an alleged sex abuse victim at a bar in Nashville, Tennessee. (Courtesy Photo / For illustration purposes only) Michael Tait, Openly Homosexual “Evangelical” Singer, Apologizes to Assault Victim: “I Set Everything Around Me on Fire” “Evangelical” Musician Michael Tait Recorded in Apology to Sexual Assault Victim Michael Tait’s...

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In 2005, Michael Tait (right) poses with an alleged sex abuse victim at a bar in Nashville, Tennessee. (Courtesy Photo / For illustration purposes only)

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Openly Homosexual Michael Tait Recorded Apologizing to Sexual Assault Victim: “I Set Everything Around Me on Fire”

Daniel Whyte III, President of Gospel Light Society International, says Michael Tait is not the only one guilty in this scandal, but hundreds of people in the evangelical white and Black church communities knew about such incidents over the past twenty years, not only involving Michael Tait but also other so-called “Christian celebrities,” including singers, musicians, and charismatic preachers. Pastors, pastors’ wives, youth pastors, evangelical concert promoters, Christian record producers, evangelical book publishers, and many Contemporary Christian Music (CCM) and Black Gospel power brokers were aware. Whyte says the Judas-Jezebel-Laodicean evangelical church is so carnal that it tried to make Tait a Christian James Brown or a Black Christian “Paul McCartney” while ignoring his alleged homosexual misconduct. What an evangelical CCM charade! Whyte closes with a warning to all young, impressionable Christians and their parents: Read this article carefully to understand how Michael Tait groomed the young man named “Lucas,” destroying his pure, innocent, Pentecostal, homeschooled life using the modern equivalent of Judas’s thirty pieces of silver—filthy lucre, mammon, money, material things, and power.

Parents, do not let this happen to your children. Young adults, do not let this happen to you. Do not let these woke-arati, homosexual devils corner you in a “bathroom.” Daniel Whyte III agrees with the victim, “Lucas” that Michael Tait should be tried in a court of law and put in jail just like Robert Morris.

Disgraced former Newsboys frontman Michael Tait, accused by several men for alleged rapes and sexual abuse over a 16-year period, is trying to make amends.

In a call Tait made to one of his victims, which was recorded and released to The Roys Report (TRR), the rock star begged for forgiveness.

“When I first made the advances on you, touched you inappropriately, and it just, it just bloomed out of control, and . . . it got the best of me,” Tait told the victim this past July. “All I can say is, from my heart and I’m truly sorry, man . . . “

The victim, “Lucas,” a pseudonym, was a former session and touring musician for Tait. He told TRR that he was 19 when he met Tait at a music festival in Birmingham, Alabama in 2000.

Michael Tait, pictured performing in 2008; and inset, mugshot after his May 11, 2009 arrest on a DUI charge in Nashville, Tennessee. (TRR Graphic/Nashville MPD)

He said that Tait, who is 15 years his senior, groomed, manipulated, and sexually assaulted him sporadically between 2002-2010.

The two men drifted apart for more than a decade until July 10, 2025, when Tait made an overseas call to apologize. Lucas, realizing that the laws where he lived allowed him to record the call legally, did so.

“There’s no handbook on how to do this, except for the Bible,” Tait confessed on the phone, his voice tinged with sadness. “(You’re) the first of how many people, but (I’m calling ) just to ask forgiveness.”

“I’ve cried, I’ve prayed, I’ve dealt with addictions on every level. I’ve lied, I’ve cheated, I’ve deceived, I’ve destroyed my world around me, set on fire everything around me, and one thing led to another, and the domino effect took over it. But it all started, you know, it all started somewhere.”

That “somewhere” went unidentified in the rambling 45-minute call that followed.

The impetus for the call seemed to be several stories published by TRR and The Guardian, detailing multiple allegations of sexual assault, grooming, and substance abuse by Tait.

And so, the singer, whom Lucas once compared to Beatles legend Paul McCartney, said he wanted to make amends.

“I pray you can see that apology, and know it’s more than just that, but that’s a start,” Tait said.

Going places

Lucas was a doe-eyed homeschooler when he was introduced to Tait by mutual friends at a music festival in Birmingham in 2000. At 19, he was an avid drummer and DC Talk fan and grew up in a conservative Pentecostal family.

“(Tait) had a way of making of me feel, at least like, you’ve been one of (his) entourage forever,” said Lucas. “There was no sense of, ‘I’m up here, you’re down there.’ (It was) immediate belonging.”

On that first day, Tait didn’t just give Lucas his phone number. Instead, he slung his arm around the teenager’s shoulder and told him he was going places.

“He was just like, ‘You’re gonna do it. This won’t be the last time I see you,’” Lucas said.

That night, his friends told him Tait was gay. Lucas dismissed this as speculation.

“For whatever reason, it wasn’t terribly stigmatized in my brain,” Lucas told TRR. “So I was like, ‘Maybe? Surely not.’ And they just kind of joked about it anyway.”

Two years later, Lucas joined the Christian tour circuit, opening for artists like Rachael Lampa, Stacey Orrico, The Benjamin Gate, and the band Tait, which Tait founded shortly before DC Talk went on hiatus in 2000.

michael tait miami apology — On March 22, 2013, Michael Tait and the Newsboys perform at Miami-Dade County Fair and Exposition in Miami, Florida. (Photo: Facebook)

Lucas found Tait side stage and re-introduced himself. The singer remembered him and showed Lucas around his expensive tour bus before insisting he see Lucas’ dwellings. And he left a mark on Lucas—literally.

“We go back on (my band’s old) tour bus, and (Tait) gets a Sharpie, and he writes his phone number on my arm, like a girlfriend, and he was like, ‘Now you’re never gonna forget it’,” Lucas recalled.

The next day, Lucas woke up to a voicemail from Tait. The singer had called him late at night, crooning to Nat King Cole.

For the rest of the tour, Tait would stand side stage and watch Lucas play. He made fun of his band mates, but told Lucas he was the best drummer he had ever seen, aside from his housemate Chad Chapin. The two would smoke cigarettes together, almost resulting in Lucas being fired from his more straight-laced band.

One night during a tour stop in Miami after partying with Tait, Lucas woke up with a message from Tait written on his chest. Lucas had only had two drinks and had no reason to remove his shirt. To this day, he can’t remember what happened or what Tait wrote, only that he had run around the streets celebrating Miami’s 2003 World Series victory. He wonders if this was the first time Tait assaulted him.

Michael Tait is asked if he is gay

Tait became Lucas’ door to the Christian music industry. They would talk on the phone every three days and text continually. When Tait joined the touring rock opera Hero in 2003, he got Lucas tickets when the show came to town. He also drove 40 minutes out of his way to Chili’s, the restaurant where Lucas worked, and purchased food for everyone there.

“He knew the weight of his importance in my life, and he came to my restaurant,” said Lucas.

“He picks me up in his Defender 90 Range Rover that’s like, the coolest car you’ve ever ridden in as a 20-year-old. We get to Chili’s and . . . and he sits there, and he does the Michael thing; he wines and dines everybody there.”

According to Lucas, only a couple of people there knew who Michael Tait was. But the singer didn’t care.

michael tait apology — Michael Tait performs at a small venue with the Newsboys. (Photo: Flickr / Creative commons)

“(Tait) walks in and he owns the room,” Lucas recalled.

“He is the like, the most charismatic, opportunistic, charming individual that you’ll just about ever meet. . . He can own a room full of strangers. He’s better at that than he is at singing. He’s better at that than he is at writing. He knows he can own people.”

In retrospect, he believes that Tait was orchestrating this moment for self-gratifying reasons.

“He collects people, and I was a trophy that he collected,” Lucas said. “What makes you not shiny as a trophy anymore is when you are in a relationship, or especially when you get married. When you get married, he (stonewalls) people.”

This sentiment has been shared by multiple alleged victims in Tait’s inner circle. But there was a point of difference with Lucas. During the Chili’s incident, he was already engaged. Tait didn’t seem to care until Lucas tied the knot a couple of years later.

In the meantime, he kept pushing the boundaries with Lucas, such as the weekend Tait invited his protégé to his home in December 2003. Now 22, Lucas was starstruck when he pulled up at Tait’s Brentwood mansion.

“He (said), ‘Man, I got tons of room (for you to stay over). . . (but) every room in his house was filled with guys who lived there with him, and he had no room,” said Lucas. “It’s the house I’ve seen on the behind-the-scenes DVD, and I can’t believe this. I’m in Michael Tait’s house. It’s decorated to the hilt, you know, everything about the guy is just built to impress you.”

The mammoth two-story house was filled with Gothic art and eclectic touches, similar to a medieval castle. Lucas remembers a suit of armor and expensive furniture from Morocco and Indonesia. Tait’s room was a palatial room with a massive walk-in closet and bathroom. His house mates lived in guest rooms down the hall. A balcony overlooked a luxurious backyard, complete with a hot tub.

michael tait — Michael Tait (right) is pictured at his residence in Brentwood, Tennessee, in 1995. (Courtesy Photo / For illustration purposes)

After going out to eat and play darts at a club, Tait and his buddies returned home and stripped naked to enter the hot tub. Lucas, who hadn’t grown up around locker rooms, chose to keep some underclothes on, and exited the hot tub relatively unscathed.

But things went south later that night. After Tait insisted that Lucas share his California King bed, Lucas dropped off, only to wake up at 2:30 a.m. with his pants down. Tait was groping and fondling his genitals.

Lucas immediately froze.

“The handful of little rumors, question marks I’ve heard all of a sudden, comes rushing into my mind,” said Lucas. “I (think), ‘Oh my God, Michael Tait’s gay, and I don’t know! What? What? Wait a second, what’s going on?’”

Lucas sprang to his feet and declared he had to drive home.

“(Tait says), ‘I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry.’ And I just beelined, and I just got in my little Dodge Colt and took off down the road,” Lucas said.

He woke up the next morning to a voicemail from Tait, apologizing for the incident and saying it would never happen again. Lucas believed him. Later, he buttonholed the singer.

“I was like, ‘Dude, are you gay?’ And he’s like, ‘No, man, of course not, of course not. Man, I’ve had these girlfriends I love.’”

“I was like, ‘Man, I don’t get like, what the heck?” (Tait says), ‘I’m just sorry, man, I don’t know. I don’t know what kind of got into me.’ And he just quickly changed the subject.”

tait apology — Michael Tait performs with the Newsboys. (Photo: Mary Nikkel)

Choosing to give Tait the benefit of the doubt, Lucas dropped the subject. He used Tait’s industry contacts to help him move to Nashville, which in turn got him more invites at Tait’s house. He recalls Tait and his housemates Chad Chapin and Scott Bullard having pissing contests off the balcony, trips to strip clubs, and poker nights.

But there was a price for all that access. Over the next 12 months, Tait sexually assaulted him between six and 10 times, Lucas told TRR. Each time, Tait would corner Lucas in the bathroom or as they were smoking and insist that the young man fondle him. The first four times, Lucas reluctantly gave in. But as his wedding drew closer, he refused, so they compromised. While the singer masturbated, Lucas says he lay by his side.

“Michael used his power and position in the industry to coerce me into situations that I always tried to get out of,” said Lucas.

“There was never an encounter where I didn’t try to put my foot down and say ‘That’s enough. I don’t want to do this.’ But he almost always found a way to get what he wanted anyway; at least some degree of what he wanted.”

Years later, Lucas says this level of coercion was only possible because Tait held so much influence over his life. “That created such a complexity in the relationship that me feel utterly powerless to stand up for myself,” he said.

“To walk away from those situations meant turning my back on so many things that held weight in my life. (Tait) knew he had this power over me and so many others. So, he used that influence to pressure, coerce, manipulate—to take what he wanted without concern for what he left behind.”

That was the era when Tait’s level of fame in Nashville seemed unstoppable.

“(He) had a way of letting you know he could make you or break you,” said Lucas. “At that time, he really seemed to have that kind of pull in Nashville.”

Once Lucas got married, the assaults stopped, along with the proximity. But Lucas would still attend the occasional poker night. And when his marriage began to break down, Tait was one of the first people to find out.

Lucas told TRR the sexual assault wasn’t the main reason he got divorced several years into the marriage, but it was a contributing factor. He told Tait as much in their phone call in July.

“I had no sexual past. I had no debaucherous past. I didn’t even drink. . . you broke me sexually,” Lucas said to Tait.

Around the time of the divorce, Tait took Lucas under his wing and wooed him with a weekend away in Chattanooga. Lucas says Tait tried to coerce him into sexual behavior multiple times there, but Lucas refused.

Still, Lucas believed they were friends, as he knew Tait was going through a difficult time in his career during the decade between his gigs with DC Talk and the Newsboys.

While seeking new creative opportunities, the singer was considering becoming the front man for Santana, and was working on a mainstream break-out record called Loveology. Tait promised Lucas that when Loveology made it big, Lucas would be his touring drummer.

But that promise died the day in 2008 when Tait received a call from artist manager Wes Campbell, asking Tait to front for the Newsboys.

The Loveology record was never released and Tait and Lucas’ relationship dimmed. Still, that sense of genuine friendship was powerful, such as when Tait cancelled a Newsboys studio session so he could attend the 2010 funeral of Lucas’ mother.

“There was genuine care; he loved me as a friend,” Lucas said. “But I think his love for himself was just stronger than anything else in his life.”

The phone call

When Tait reconnected with Lucas in July, now 15 years later, he told him that cocaine and sex were how he escaped trauma. This included figuring out if he was gay or bi-sexual—neither of which would have been accepted in the Christian music industry. Tait never told Lucas what his conclusion was.

Instead, he focused on his cocaine addiction, calling it an “apex predator.” Tait added that Lucas was the collateral damage of his choices, but that he had been clean and sober since January. What’s more, he admitted that Lucas wasn’t the only victim.

“At this point, no one has pressed any charges,” he said. “There’ve been like many young men, who could come. I don’t know; it could happen.”

Despite this, Tait adamantly told Lucas that some of the reports published by TRR and The Guardian were incorrect.

“There’s this journalistic sensationalism and that’s just going to go on,” Tait said. “The Roys Report is loving it online, because they got a juicy story. But the reason I can’t just tell the public every single thing. . . (is) because there’s too much information.”

TRR has consistently asked Tait for response to the allegations in our story, including this one, but he has not responded.

Tait denied drugging a 23-year-old woman in Fargo, North Dakota, in December 2014, who claimed a Newsboys crew member then sexually assaulted her. He also denied showing his genitals to alleged survivor Israel Anthem when he was 13.

Tait also insisted that his Newsboys band mates and management had no idea about his drug habit but were paying the price for his behavior.

“I’m glad consequences came,” he said to Lucas. “I’m glad, as hard as it is on everybody on the band, we’ve lost everything. The band’s done. Management’s done. We don’t know exactly their articles, but it’s bad. But that said, it took that to get me to my knees, and it sucks.”

Tait told Lucas that the phone call was against the better judgment of his friends.

“My mentor group, which is an amazing men’s group, they said, ‘No matter what you need to do, at first, just to pause to ask if these guys want to take you to court,’” he said.

However, Tait insisted that he felt convicted to follow biblical teaching and make amends with Lucas, no matter what the consequences were.

Then, he begged for mercy.

“You can hang me at the gallows, or you can say . . . ‘You know, hey, I forgive you,’” said Tait.

Lucas agreed to forgive Tait, but added more was required if Tait wanted make amends for “fundamentally altering my life.” After assuring Lucas he was speaking to a friend for legal advice, Tait agreed.

“In the meantime, this is the start,” he said.

Lucas hasn’t heard back from Tait since. He told TRR he chose to share the phone call publicly because he wants to make sure Tait no longer holds a place of influence in evangelical culture. Given that Tait apparently hasn’t spoken to other survivors, he is unsure how genuine the apology actually was.

“I don’t want him to be able to make a comeback tour,” said Lucas.

“I don’t want him to publish a book. I don’t want him to come out as a solo artist and do his big forgiveness and repentance (tour). I want his life in the limelight to be over. I want all the joys and luxuries of that (over) too. He’s lived off of the souls of other people for long enough.”

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DANIEL WHYTE III, PRESIDENT OF GOSPEL LIGHT EVANGELISTIC SOCIETY INTERNATIONAL AND FOUNDER AND EDITOR-IN-CHIEF OF BLACK CHRISTIAN NEWS

Daniel Whyte III was honored by being named one of the 17 most notable alumni in the history of the 134-year-old Texas Wesleyan University in Fort Worth, Texas, and one of the 69 most notable alumni in the history of the 53-year-old Liberty University in Lynchburg, Virginia.

Daniel Whyte III holds the following degrees from these universities:

Doctor of Ministry (D.Min., in progress) – Liberty University John W. Rawlings School of Divinity, Lynchburg, VA
Master of Theology (Th.M.) – Liberty University John W. Rawlings School of Divinity, Lynchburg, VA
Master of Divinity (M.Div.) – Liberty University John W. Rawlings School of Divinity, Lynchburg, VA
Bachelor of Arts in Religion (B.A.) – Texas Wesleyan University, Fort Worth, Texas
Bachelor of Theological Studies – Bethany Divinity College and Seminary, Dothan, Alabama (Honors: Summa Cum Laude)

Daniel Whyte III was also honored to sit with presidents and world leaders by being invited by the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association to attend the homegoing of Dr. Billy Graham.

He is the Essence national best-selling author of Letters to Young Black Men and the Amazon best-selling author of Letters to Young Black Women (African-American category). He has authored over 100 books.

He is also the founder, president, and editor-in-chief of the 20-year-old BlackChristianNews.com (BCNN1.com), which has impacted every denomination in the evangelical and Christian world and has influenced presidents, the U.S. government, governments around the world, and the public square. BlackChristianNews.com has been named the #1 Black Christian website and blog in the world for four years running by the independent Feedspot and is on the list of the top 60 Christian news sites in the world—red, yellow, black, or white.

He has preached the Gospel and the Word of God in person across America and in over 24 countries to thousands of people. He has preached the Gospel and the Word of God to millions of people around the world with the help of the internet, preaching live and on-demand multiple times a day for over eight years, to this very day. His mottoes are “Crying in the Wilderness,” “Exiled on the Isle of Patmos,” and “Preaching the Gospel by any means necessary,” all for the glory of God and Jesus Christ.

Daniel Whyte III is the president of the over-40-year-old Gospel Light Evangelistic Society International and the over-37-year-old Gospel Light House of Prayer International. He is known worldwide as the prophet who predicted the Coronavirus Plague over 10 years before it hit in recorded preaching and writing. God also led him to guide thousands through the Coronavirus Plague that killed over 20 million people because of the sins in the Judas-Laodicean church.

Daniel Whyte III’s greatest blessing in this life is his “quiver full” of 10 children—Daniella (Danni), Daniel IV, Danita Evangeline, Danae Mary-Louise, Daniqua Grace, Danyel Ezekiel, Danyelle Elizabeth Breedlove, Danielle Tekeela, Duran-Daniel, and the first Daniel IV (deceased and in heaven with the Lord)—along with grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Daniel Whyte III has been unblissfully but sexually satisfyingly married to his first and only wife, Meriqua Whyte of Christiana, Jamaica, for over 37 years since December 19, 1987. Jesus Christ said: “And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household.” Even though many evangelicals, charismatics, and Protestants try to act as if these words of Jesus Christ are not a reality in our modern Christianity—primarily because of the Satanic-driven prosperity gospel and an over-positive philosophy, which is a lie not based in reality or biblical truth—the words of Jesus Christ are true for every person who preaches the Gospel. The outcomes of the Gospel are a changed life and opposition from family, lukewarm Christians, Laodicean-Judas pastors and churches, the world, and the devil. This is a reality in our present evil world.

While Daniel Whyte III thoroughly enjoys his married life because he did not allow his wife to have her way at any point and was and is solidly and biblically the head of his household throughout the marriage—often quoting Joshua, “As for me and my house, we’re going to serve the Lord” “up in here!”—and because his wife never failed in the very important area of sex, which he got married for in the first place to avoid sinning against God, he has especially enjoyed the privilege and joy of raising his children in the Lord virtually by himself. He served the Lord with them every day of their lives, from the time they were born until they graduated from college, became adults, and moved on.

However, his wife, Meriqua Whyte—motivated by Satan, with a Pharaoh-style pride mixed with the well-known female Jamaican-style pride, stubbornness, rebelliousness, and witchcraft—has been his greatest Judas enemy in the world and has been what Paul spoke of: a “messenger of Satan” and a “thorn in the flesh.” Amazingly, and by the grace of God, that Satanic evil opposition has spurred Daniel Whyte III on to preach the Gospel probably more times than any man on record. God has honored him because he did not “hearken to the voice of his wife.” Whyte tells other Christian men to only hearken to the voice of God and Jesus Christ—not to their wives, as so many thousands of church men have been taught by pastors and other older men throughout the years. Remember, we are in this worldwide, multi-generational mess because Adam hearkened to the voice of his wife and not to the voice of God.

Before they were married, Daniel Whyte III told his wife Meriqua Whyte that they would not do family life as her parents did, because their married life was hellacious and ended in divorce, as did some of her other family members, including the aunt she was living with. He also told his wife they would not do family life as his parents did, because it was also hellacious and out of order since his mother was the head of the household, not his father. But thanks be to God, they never got a divorce. Whyte told his wife before they got married that they were going to do it God’s way according to Ephesians chapters 5 and 6, or no way at all. And then he asked his wife, “Are you willing to do marriage God’s way according to Ephesians chapters 5 and 6?” And she said yes. Whyte told her before they got married that if she did not live up to her end of the deal, all bets were off.

Because Daniel Whyte III’s wife, Meriqua Whyte, was so proud, unsubmissive, stubborn, and rebellious after they got married, God led him to read Ephesians chapters 5 and 6 every day in their family devotions throughout their marriage. In the first year of their marriage, Daniel Whyte III also gave his wife a list of verses for women from the Word of God for her to read, which she still reads to this day. He also bought her many books to read to help her be the wife God wanted her to be.

Whyte realized early in the marriage that his wife was not a born-again, saved person even though she lied and said she was before they got married. After over 37 years of marriage, she is still not saved, never bearing any fruit of a saved person, to the point of not even wanting to tell her children, “I love you” and not wanting to hug them when they were little children, even after her husband told her to do so. She also hated the daily family devotions that her husband led and tried to hinder them. She also demonically hated and tried to hinder every Gospel preaching service to this very day.

However, only by the grace of God, they are still married, and despite the devil constantly working through his wife to try to hinder him from preaching the Word of God, he is still preaching the Gospel and the Word of God live and on-demand. His ministry reaches over 148,800 people per month with over 21,000 unique views per month, reaching 149 countries, preaching the Gospel and the Word of God in 2 to 3 services a day, 7 days a week. Glory be to God!

Mrs. Meriqua Whyte’s Apology to her Husband and Their 7 Children for not Being a Biblical Wife or Mother

Mrs. Meriqua Whyte, the Wife of Daniel Whyte III, Gave him the Best Father’s Day Gift Ever About 10 Years Ago When She Unexpectedly and Voluntarily Apologized for the First Time to Him and Their 7 Children for Not Being the Wife, Mother, and Christian Example of the Woman She Should Have Been Over the Past 37 Years of Marriage

Here is what Mrs. Meriqua Whyte wrote ten years ago after verbally apologizing to the entire family on Father’s Day, right before church service:

Over thirty years of marriage. Over thirty years of ups and downs. Over thirty years of trying to make our problems a personal thing between my husband and me. Thankfully, he did not allow me to do that and kept telling me it was between God and me—over thirty years of acting on my feelings and not on what the Bible says. Over thirty years of refusing to obey God’s simple command to a wife—to be obedient to your husband in all things. Over thirty years of disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, and dishonesty, all rooted in pride. Over thirty years of simply not choosing to mature as a Christian.

God has been dealing with me for over thirty years now about changing my attitude and behavior as a wife, which has manifested itself in disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, dishonesty, having an ungodly attitude and spirit, and simply not being the wife, mother, or example of a Christian woman that I should have been throughout the years. (By the way, for those of you who may be thinking that my disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, and dishonesty have resulted in adultery, I will say here that I have never committed any adultery or had sex with another man besides my husband, Daniel Whyte III, since I was born.)

God kept telling me I needed to stop my rebellious and stubborn behavior, apologize to my husband and children, and get my heart right with him, my husband, and my children. He sent others my way to tell me how to behave:

My husband, but I didn’t want to hear it from him
Other Christian women speakers
Other preachers
Books and other materials, but I would not take heed

I knew what to do, but I chose not to do it. The devil had me thinking and believing—as he is having a lot of wives and mothers think and believe—that your relationship with your husband and how you respond to him, whether positive or negative, will not affect your relationship with your children or your relationship with God. I say without hesitation that this is one of the devil’s lies, and sad to say, many wives and mothers are falling for this lie.

Another lie of the devil that Christian wives are falling for is that you can still have a strong relationship with God without being submissive to your husband. Lie! Lie! Lie! There is no truth to this. I know because I have experienced this and am still experiencing this as I am going through this breaking process, which is not happening overnight.

Even throughout my years of rebelliousness, stubbornness, and pride, I still kept praying the prayer I used to pray daily before I got married: “Lord, make me be exactly what You want me to be. Lord, break, make, and mold me into what you want me to be.” Well, God took that prayer seriously, and once you accept Him, He will begin the breaking process. It’s up to us how long that breaking process will take. For me, sad to say, it has taken over 30 years, and the breaking is not complete. In what way is God breaking me down right now? Well, our children have grown up. The three oldest have gone through and are still going through college, have gotten their degrees, and some are working on their second, third, and fourth degrees, launching their careers and moving out. God slapped me into reality and truly intensified the breaking process. My husband told me before our first child was born and repeatedly while the children were young that my job was to love our children and make positive memories with them and that if I did that, I would have a wonderful relationship with them as adults in the time to come. Well, I disobeyed God and my husband, who did not let up on his duties. And he has a wonderful relationship with our children, even the girls, and I don’t. However, God led me to finally break the day before Father’s Day, and while I was helping my husband get dressed to preach, I asked him if I could apologize to him and the entire family. That’s the first time I ever did that on my own. Throughout the years, he has always told me that I needed to get my heart right with God, him, and my children; otherwise, I would never have the joy and peace of the Lord in my life. However, I kept on lying and denying that I was the problem.

Here is what I said to my husband and children on Saturday afternoon, June 17, 2017, the day before Father’s Day. My husband told the entire family that this was the best Father’s Day gift I have ever given to him:

“Daddy, children, I apologize for not being the wife, mother, and example of a Christian woman I should have been throughout the years. I have shown nothing but pride, disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, and a bad attitude and spirit toward God and my husband in front of you. My disobedience and rebelliousness have caused much unnecessary unrest and upheaval in the family. As my husband told me, things could have gone much better if I had obeyed God’s word from the beginning. Please accept my apology, and I am asking you to forgive me.”

The diminishing of peace and joy in my life throughout the years I brought on myself. Not having a proper relationship with God, my husband, and my children, I brought on myself—all because I chose the disobedient route. My number one desire is to live a life of peace—peace with God, my husband, and my children. I have learned that peace will not come as long as I live in disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, and pride.

I will end this with two notes: (1) Happy Father’s Day to my husband: you have been a great husband and father. (2) Happy Children’s Day to my children: You all have been great children. I have no complaints whatsoever against my husband and, of course, children; you have never been at fault. My bad behavior is all on me, and I’m sorry I put you through this. May God bless your lives, and I love you.

Ephesians 5:22 – 6:20 (KJV)

Below is the passage in the Bible that Daniel Whyte III read in their family devotions every day for decades. It covers the biblical duties of the husband, the wife, and the children, and includes how to fight against the devil who is seeking to destroy the family.

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

2 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;

3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

5 Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ;

6 Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;

7 With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men:

8 Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.

9 And, ye masters, do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your Master also is in heaven; neither is there respect of persons with him.

10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.

11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.

12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;

15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;

16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.

17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:

18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

19 And for me, that utterance may be given unto me, that I may open my mouth boldly, to make known the mystery of the gospel,

20 For which I am an ambassador in bonds: that therein I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.

The Gospel in a Nutshell

If you were to die today, where would you go: Heaven or Hell? If you’re not sure, “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved.”

Jesus Christ said the most important words ever spoken in the history of the world when He said, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)

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The Most Important Question in the World: Have You Been Twice Born?

This is the “Chief of sinners,” Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society International, with the Gospel Light Minute X Podcast #447, titled, “The Big Question.” I’m here to remind you of what the Bible says: that “Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners” like you and me.

“Have You Been Born Again?”

The question is not, “Have you joined a church?” or “Are you trying to do your best?” or “Do you have religion?” but, “Are you twice-born?” Jesus Christ said in John 3:3, “Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.”

We enter the physical world by birth. Spiritual life, likewise, is entered with a birth. We become members of a human family by birth; we become members of the family of God by birth, by being “born again.” There is no other way to get into the human family except by birth, and there is no other way to get into God’s family except by the new birth. Neither education, nor cultivation, nor reformation, nor “turning over a new leaf,” will accomplish this. What is needed is not a new “leaf” but a new “life”! “Ye must be born again” (John 3:7).

A New Nature Needed

By physical birth, we become partakers of human nature; by being born again, we become “partakers of the divine nature.” A Christian is the product of a divine “begetting.” The second birth is not an improvement of the old nature; it is the imparting of an entirely new nature. The old nature is hopelessly corrupt and incapable of ever being made fit for His presence. The new birth requires a creative act of the Holy Spirit. “If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature.”

Not “Trying” But “Trusting”

“Trying to follow Christ” is not Christianity. Christianity is not imitation of Christ; it is the indwelling of Christ. Christianity is not trying to do anything. It is trusting Christ, who has done it all! He has “finished the work,” and there is nothing left to do but simply to receive and trust Him. He shed His precious blood on the cross, and the work is all done once and forever! Cease trying and begin trusting! Believers will progressively become more and more like Christ, but by His power, not their own.

What Must I Do To Be Saved?

Simply “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ.” The Bible says in 1 John 5:1, “Whosoever believeth that Jesus is the Christ is born of God.” The Bible states in John 1:12-13, “As many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name: Which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.”

You are born again, you become a Christian by trusting a Person—receiving a Person. The very moment you do this, the Lord Jesus Christ comes in and life begins!

What Is Meant By “Believe”?

To “believe on the Lord Jesus Christ” means more than simply believing the historic facts concerning Him. Intellectual belief about Christ is not sufficient. The belief that brings salvation must be “with the heart,” that is, with the whole being. This belief also includes repentance: “Repentance toward God, and faith toward our Lord Jesus Christ.” The Bible states in Acts 17:30, “God… now commandeth all men everywhere to repent.”

The faith which saves, then, includes the necessity to repent and to receive Christ as Savior and Lord, to rest upon Him alone for salvation. It means to trust Him so utterly and completely that, if He should fail, there would be no hope at all!

May I Know That I Am Born Again?

This is an important question. We know that we are born again by the testimony of God’s Word. God says in John 5:24, “He that heareth my word, and believeth on him that sent me, hath everlasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life.” Have you believed on the Lord Jesus Christ as explained by God’s Word? If so, then you are saved, you are “born again,” you have “passed from death unto life.” God says so! Take God at His Word, and go on your way rejoicing!

One Final Word

You may “belong to a church,” you may be “trying to do the best you can,” you may be “striving to live right.” Your outward life may be the model of moral correctness, and you may be looked up to, honored, revered, and respected. Yet, if you have not been “born again,” you are just as lost as if you had never heard of Christ. Yes, you may teach in the Sunday school, read the Bible, sing, shout, “feel happy,” and all the rest—but if you have never been “born again,” you are still in your sins and a stranger to the Lord Jesus Christ.

If you want to be saved from the wrath to come and from an eternity in Hell, and if you believe that Jesus Christ suffered, bled, and died on the cross for your sins, was buried, and rose again from the dead, and you are willing to trust Jesus Christ with all of your heart so you can go to Heaven, please pray with me what is called the sinner’s prayer:

Holy Father God, I acknowledge that I am a sinner and I admit that I have sinned against You and that I have broken Your Ten Commandments. I have lied before. I have stolen things before. I have lusted after people and things before. I have dishonored and disobeyed my parents. I have taken Your holy Name in vain. For Jesus Christ’s sake, please have mercy and grace upon my soul and forgive me of all of my sins, my failures, and my faults. As I now believe in Your Holy Son, the Lord Jesus Christ. I believe that He suffered, bled, and died on the cross for my sins, was buried, and rose again. Lord Jesus, please come into my heart and save my soul and change my life. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit and help me to repent of my sins past. Help me to turn from my old, evil life and follow You in the new life. For it is in Your Name I pray. Amen.

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