I Was His Money Bag While He Was Secretly Dating Another Woman

I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years. Things were lovely when we first started dating. The future looked so bright. But shortly after we started dating, he lost his job. He was down. I was not happy to see him that way. As his woman, I went the extra mile to support him. I contacted recruitment agents and helped him search for opportunities.

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While we were doing all that, he still needed money to take care of himself and his family, considering that he was the breadwinner. I took care of that. Yes, I supported him and his family financially whenever the need arose. Every time he asked, I gave effortlessly. This went on until he got back on his feet.

Early this year, I found out I was pregnant. I was both scared and excited, but I wasn’t worried about how he would react. I believed he was mature enough to handle it. He didn’t disappoint me in that regard. He welcomed the news openly. He even promised to meet my parents so that the proper traditional rites would be performed.

Three months down the line, he hadn’t made any move to perform the rites. When I brought it up he said, “Let’s sit down and discuss the way forward.”

That’s when he told me his decision that I should terminate the pregnancy because of his financial struggles. I refused. My mother had always warned me never to commit such an act. Even if I wanted to go against her, I could not take such a step because of my Christian faith.

He then told me that if we were to keep the child, he would need a better job. Once again, I went the extra mile to help him secure one through a friend. He got the job and, through his own hard work, rose to become a manager almost immediately after he was employed.

After all that, he still had the audacity to tell me to get rid of the pregnancy. If not, then I should prepare to be abandoned by him. Herh! Is this how heartless some men can be?

I confided in my parents, and they promised to support us and even establish something small for us to start life together as a family. He rejected their help.

“You are all trying to push me into something I don’t want.”

Recently, I reached out to a lady he introduced to me as his friend. I wanted to hear her thoughts on his behaviour. Can you believe she is not just a friend?

“I have been dating him for two years now,” she told me.

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Wow! Right under my nose and I didn’t even suspect anything? This man is wicked.

Now that I know that he was just playing me, I have accepted to move on. Truly, some men don’t recognise a God-given woman until she is gone. Only then do they realise the value of what they’ve lost.

— Petra

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