HOW TO BE A GOOD KISSER

1. MAINTAIN GOOD DENTAL HYGIENE

Brush your teeth twice, thrice a day, use dental floss, chew gum, use mints, drink water; keep your breath fresh. Mouth odour repels kisses.

2. SMILE MORE 

Angry, bitter, sad faces distract attention from your lips; a smile makes the focus be on your lips. Draw attention to your mouth and your partner will kiss you more.

3. BE AT A KISSABLE DISTANCE

Maybe you're not being kissed alot because your face is often far making it a tall order to kiss you. Present your face infront of your partner's face more when you are picking something, arranging the table, cooking, cuddling, explaining something, sleeping or dancing and your partner won't help but kiss you.

4. SAY NO TO WEAVES THAT GIVE A BAD SMELL 

If you are a woman who wears weaves don't stay too long with one. Avoid having a weave with a foul smell. A stink might keep the man away from your beautiful face.

5. AVOID UNCOMFORTABLE FACIAL HAIR 

Men, keep your facial hair neat and minimal, lest your facial hair pokes inside your partner's nose or bruises her soft skin. Hair finding itself on her lips or inside her mouth because of your bush is a no no.

6. KEEP YOUR LIPS MOIST 

Prevent your lips from drying or cracking. Apply lip gloss, lip balm or lip stick; lick them if you must, moist lips look kissable.

7. SAY THE RIGHT WORDS 

You may have kissable lips but if you are the type to talk hurtful and cold words, your partner will not only avoid kissing you but avoid you altogether. Nothing as good as kissing lips that say the right words.

8. AVOID IRRITATING PERFUMES 

Wear perfumes and colognes on your neck, arms and clothes but make sure the scent is not too strong or that which your partner is allergic to. You want your partner kissing you, not sneezing, coughing, tearing up or chocking.

9. BE GENTLE 

Go easy, apply the right amount of force even when kissing with passion. It's a kiss, not war. Watch out you don't painfully bite and hurt.

10. KISS THEN BE KISSED 

A sweeet kiss should be mutual. Lead the kiss; the pace of the kiss, the tongue play and upper lip to lower lip focus; then relax and let your partner lead. When both of you lead your lips might conflict.

11. CONTROL YOUR BREATHING

Don't be breathing hysterically and frantically on your partner's face. Keep calm. Yes it is exciting to kiss but don't mess it with your hasty breathing.

12. BE CREATIVE WITH THE TONGUE

The tongue is a powerful sensual organ, introduce it at the right time. Call out your partner's tongue to come play. Tongues curling on each other, poking each other, licking. Just make sure the tongue kissing is not messy.

13. DON'T SUFFOCATE YOUR PARTNER 

Don't press too deep on your partner's face. Give your partner space to breathe.

14. BE SPONTANEOUS 

Kissing should not be structued or planned, there should be no scheduled kissing time. Don't be too rigid, bring down your walls. Kiss in the middle of a serious conversation, kiss when bored, kiss for no reason at all.

15.EXPERIMENT WITH TECHNIQUES

Spice up the kissing, sometimes be passionate and fast, at times soft and slow. Do something new with the tongue, bite the lower lip, pull the upper lip; experiment.

16. DO SOMETHING WITH YOUR HANDS 

Kissing is not just about the lips, it's what you do also with your fingers. Don't let your hands hang idle, squeeze your partner, stroke the skin, caress, trace the spine, grab the waist, hold the neck, lift your partner up on the back side.

17. HAVE A RHYTHM 

Flow, kissing is like a dance, a tango of lips and tongues. Pay attention to your partner's rythmn and groove.

18. CLOSE YOUR EYES 

Closing your eyes shows surrender, it should be a natural thing while kissing. A partner looking straight at you when you two are eyeball to eyeball is rather weird.

19. DON'T OVER THINK 

When you are being kissed, enjoy it. Don't start thinking about work, issues, responsibilities, finances, or the baby. Don't start joking or talking as if the kiss is some petty thing, that will make your lover kiss you less. Kissing should be a get-a-way for you and your partner where you lock out every care in mind.

20. COMPLIMENT YOUR PARTNER

The more you tell your partner how he/ she kisses you so well the more your partner will look forward to kissing you.

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde