Dear Doctors, Leave Our Women Alone

Dear Doctors in Our Hospitals,

I write this letter on behalf of many young men, boyfriends, fiancés, and even husbands who are silently battling a concern that has become both troubling and heartbreaking. This letter is not meant to attack, disrespect, or generalise all doctors, but to humbly and honestly express a plea from those of us at home who trust our partners and expect them to return from school with dignity, focus, and loyalty.

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We would like you to kindly leave our beloveds alone when they come to the hospital to do their clinicals. They are not yours. As you leave your wives at home and come to the hospital to work, we also wait at home believing that the women we love will complete their training successfully and come back to build a future with us. Some of us have been supporting them faithfully from the very beginning of their academic journey.

Unfortunately, what is supposed to be a place of learning has slowly become a place of emotional battles for us. When these ladies go for their clinical rotations, we begin to notice a change. Phone calls reduce, messages delay, priorities shift—and we are forced to ask ourselves: What exactly is happening during these clinicals?

The truth is, some doctors spend more time chasing these young ladies than supervising their training. Instead of focusing on teaching medical or nursing skills, they shift into full charm mode. They offer money here and there. Sometimes they make promises of securing them good positions in reputable hospitals. Other times it’s outings in their cars, complete with expensive food and comfort.

We all know that most of these actions are not driven by genuine love or long-term intentions. At the end of the day, these doctors return home to their wives or girlfriends, while we—the men at home—are left heartbroken. It’s hard to become outsiders in relationships we have built with sacrifice.

I know that as much as we address the doctors, we also acknowledge that the blame is not entirely one-sided. Some of our ladies have simply refused to be mature and value what they have. They fall too easily for material things and the illusion of a comfortable life. A little money, a free meal, or a ride in an air-conditioned car is all it takes to weaken their loyalty. In this era where many ladies choose luxury over commitment, what should we expect?

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We are not asking our partners to reject mentorship or professional guidance. All we ask is that they remember the love, respect, and sacrifices of the men who have stood by them from the beginning. And we also ask that doctors, in their positions of influence, exercise discipline and respect for their profession.

The hospital is a place meant for healing, growth, learning, and service. It should not become a battleground for temptation or emotional manipulation. We plead with you: teach them, guide them, mentor them—but leave it there.

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To our dear ladies, remember the partners who have supported you, encouraged you, and sacrificed for you. Not every man who spoils you with food or promises you a job has good intentions. Some simply want what they want and will move on without looking back.

May God help us all. May He guide our doctors to uphold their professional ethics and personal integrity. May He strengthen our partners to stay focused and loyal. And may He give us, the men at home, patience and peace as we continue urging our women to pursue careers.

Sincerely,

—Ajax

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