A LADY NEED ADVICE ON AN ISSUE BETWEEN SHE AND HER HUSBAND

My husband demanded that I should take permission from him before anyone from my family visits our home. So for the past four years non of my relative has visited. My mom told me she will visit us this month end, I kept asking her when so I could discuss with my husband, she didn't say anything about the particular day she will visit. Three days ago she came unannounced from the village and this is her first time of visiting my house since I was married four years ago. Even though she wanted to come on many occasions, but because of how hubby regards my family as low life, I told her to forget about coming that I'm fine. Now she came unannounced and for three days hubby has not said a word to either my mom or myself. I have been begging him and even told my mom to go back to the village, after all i don't have a new born baby in the house, so what's the point of having her around where she's not wanted. Hubby has refused my food, he now sleeps in the guest room and goes out very early. My home is about to be shattered because of my mom. I have told her I will never forgive her if anything happens to my marriage.

I am comfortable the way I am. I take my mother-in-law as my mother, so if my mom doesn't visit it's no big deal, my mother inlaw comes often and I have no issue with that. My mom is inconsiderate, she wants to enjoy a new environment not minding if she's welcome or not. Since yesterday I stopped talking to her, just so she can leave. I don't want to be harsh with her, how do I persuade her to leave pls, I don't want any problem in my house.

 Please advise me on this....

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