True Life Story: I Am Afraid Of Loosing My Baby Mama But She Gave Me A Impossible Condition

True Life Story: I Am Afraid Of Loosing My Baby Mama But She Gave Me A Impossible Condition

Hi Lively Stones,

Your last post inspired me to write my story. (Click hereto read the story that inspired this). I need advice because I am afraid of loosing my baby mama who I am in love with despite all we have both been through. So, many years ago, I met Ego (not real name). She was sweet and very young. I was a young guy living like most guys my age, just experimenting, not really ready to settle down. Ego came from a very nice background and was very smart but shy. I met her in the library, I was doing my masters but she was in 200 level at the time. Both studying Accounting. We became friends, she made me really see life from a different perspective, she made me happy and I fell in love with her.

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Ego is the only woman who has truly loved me for who I am. We dated briefly but she got pregnant and I was not prepared to be a father then. I panicked and she panicked when I brough tup abortion as an idea. Unfortunately, she told her parents who  are very religious, they rejected the idea of abortion. So, Ego stopped school for a year, to have the baby. In my own way, I contributed to the upkeep of the baby. She returned to school a year later. I was still in my child’s life financially…I tried to get with Ego romantically but she was not ready because she knew I had a girlfriend.

In fact, the girl I was dating, was Ego’s course mate. I did not mean to but when Ego was out of school….I kept bumping into this girl and we had an affair. I broke it off after Ego found out but she never forgave me. Plus that Ego has refused to have any sort of relationship until she finished school. So, I finished my masters and moved on with my life. Since then, I have been in a couple of relationships but none have been long term like that.

My last relationship was one that I thought was going to be the one. We dated for almost two years. The lady loved me and encouraged me, she was great, understanding and supportive. But I realized I have a way of messing up good things. Her friends were ogling at me behind her back. Women should not trust their friends, especially those ones pretending to be happy in their marriages.

My girl trusted her best friend cos she was happily married, always posting happy social media photos of her husband and children. But every opportunity she had, behind her friend’s back….she was flirting with me. I tried to resist but she was aggressive…it started from innocent touching before it ended in a full blown affair. We got so engrossed and became careless…her husband caught us in their house…not my finest moment…I h@ted myself for that but the husband told my girlfriend and she could not bear it. She broke off. I regret loosing that my relationship.

Since then, I have not met any girl worth my while. I am not getting any younger…I want o settle down but you see these city girls, they are all fake. Last February, my son with Ego clocked 5 years and we three a milestone birthday party for him. After the birthday, I realized Ego has become a bit relaxed around me…so I took a hint and tried to get close to her again. I realize she was still in love with me…I was her first…seems she still had feelings for me but when I tried to pursue those feelings, she stated that she cannot be with me cos she does not want to have s3x with any man who isn’t her husband.

To me, I have known Ego for six years, she is the mother of my child and she is very smart and beautiful. I could see myself marrying her so I asked her if she would like to marry me. Ego said never. That I am a serial womanizer. I felt hurt but she was right. I have tried to stop womanizing but even when I try to stay away from trouble…trouble still finds a way to look for me. I gave myself a target to stay celibate for six months…but I could not survive a month…so I have accepted my faith…maybe its who I am…I love s3x with different women but I also want love, a woman who will love me despite my faults.

Few weeks ago, I was chatting with Ego. I was truly feeling her…she and I are kind of best friends now…without any benefits if course….lol. I just blurted and started begging her to marry me. Ego was like she knows I can’t change and she loves me alot. So, she will marry me on one condition: that condition is, we get married, have one or two more children and then I will go have a mastectomy procedure, so that even if I sleep with any woman in future…there will not be unwanted pregnancies involved.

I laughed when she told me her condition and told her it can never happen. Haba…how can I do that…it will make me feel less of a man na….but she said that is the only condition. Last week, I found out Ego went on a date with someone…a guy that has been asking her out but she refused…when I asked Ego why she finally went out with him…she said she cannot continue to wait for me forever…that while she loves me…she is getting old and cannot wait for me to change so she is giving this guy a chance.

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Omo…since I found out Ego is trying to move on …I have been restless. I mean…the guy is great for her…he is cool and has been patient…plus I don’t want any step dad for our son. This is an opportunity for me to build a family with a woman who loves me and accepts me the way I am….I don’t know many women who would know their men are hopeless cheats and still love them….So, I have been thinking…would it be such a bad idea to do the mastectomy that Ego wants? Should I sacrifice my fertility for our future? I mean, she did not say I cannot be with other women, she just wants assurance that she will be the only one to have my children…is that a fair deal? Should I accept the deal?

What would you advise me? I love Ego…I need to act fast before she falls out of love with me and falls in love with her new guy. Ego is good for me…my family and friends love her….they have been telling me not to waste time with her before someone steals her away from me. Should I do what she wants to win her? A small price to pay for a woman you love and a future you want right?Men in the house,…also women, what do you think of this condition?…Please help me.

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