Seductive Archetype: Being the "Prosocial Playboy"

If you can’t avoid a playboy reputation, do this: be the PROSOCIAL playboy. This archetype is deeply intriguing to women – it lets you move FAST with them, too.

One of the early snags a lot of guys will run into once they start self-improving with girls is the “playboy problem.”

You get a little too slick, a little too easy with the conversation, and suddenly girls you’re talking to start telling you things like:

• “You’re pretty good at this, aren’t you?”
• “I’ll bet you get a lot of girls.”
• “I’d better be careful around you.”

At first this is going to feel good. Girls are acknowledging how slick you are! But you soon realize it’s actually a sign of low attainability. The fact that she is commenting on your slickness means you are so slick it’s noticeable, and it’s making her feel like you are insincere.

To her, you’re just saying the same thing you’ve told dozens of other girls. She’s nothing special to you, she thinks, which makes her not feel good. While you do want girls to know you have options, you also want girls to feel they are special to you; sacrificing either one of these drubs attraction.

The typical advice here is to do things that defuse the playboy reputation and make you come across more sincere. Basically, to not seem like you are a player at all.

But there’s another route you can go, that you sometimes may be FORCED to go, if circumstances force you to accept that playboy reputation.

That is to accept, own it, and wrap yourself up as the PROSOCIAL playboy instead.