Seduction Failures: Girl Problem or Skill Issue?

If you’re stumbling in a seduction, is it because of the girl, or because of your skill? To figure out which, we need to establish the pattern – if there is one at all.

Commenting on my article “Always Be Closing (in Seduction, with Girls)”, Walter writes

Usually,when it comes to sex, I am really aggressive and yet I have often failed to close as you speak even though I was fooling around with women that I had just met when we were in a bed room for instance even though she suggested it too.

The first thing I’ll say here is while my advice is to move faster with women and yes, always be closing, it is also to be highly responsive and as well-calibrated as you can be in your moves with women. You can close a certain portion of girls simply by being really aggressive, but you will also blow a lot of girls out entirely.

The reason for that is it is very important for a woman in a seduction to feel that she is special to you and that you are listening to her, responding to her, and looking out for her. If at any point she stops feeling this way, trust is lost, and her legs slam shut (often never to be opened).

I don’t have a full picture of Walter’s typical escalation to sex so I don’t want to speculate too much on what he is doing here. But I use this comment to lead into this article’s subject: when a seduction fails, how do you tell whether the problem is a ‘girl problem’ or a ‘skill issue’?