He Broke Up With Me Over One Little Mistake

I have been dating a man for over two years. Saying that I like him is an understatement. I have had relationships before, including one that nearly led to marriage and a child, but none of them felt like this one. We connect in ways that seem otherworldly.

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Because of that intense connection, our sexual life has been amazing. I had never been happier or more at peace. Loving him has made me discover a kind of love in myself I did not even know I possessed.

Some time ago he had to move away for work. It is not possible for me to join him yet, so we no longer see each other every day as we used to. Regardless, we kept the connection alive through constant communication. We do our best to keep our conversations exciting.

A few days ago we planned a visit that happened to coincide with an event I had to attend for my one and only close friend, who is my rock. I was torn. On one hand, I missed my boyfriend and wanted to see him. On the other hand, my friend needed me at the event. Besides, if I missed it, I wouldn’t see her for months.

Knowing my man, he would cancel his visit and tell me to go be with my friend. That’s why I chose not to tell him. Rather, I came up with a plan to kill two birds with one stone.

Although my best friend’s event was in another country, I decided to let my boyfriend arrive for us to spend time together before I catch a flight to the event.

This is where the problem began. I had already mentioned the event to him. I just didn’t tell him that the date clashed with his visit. I was wrong to do that, but I did it because I needed to see him.

We had a great visit, but I ended up booking an earlier flight. Which means I left a few hours before he was supposed to return to his work station. He seemed fine with it at first, but when I landed at my friend’s event, everything changed.

He became cold and distant. When I finally got him to talk to me, the words he said were, “We are over.”

I cannot understand why this is happening.

Yes, I made a mistake by not telling him about the change in plans. I just didn’t want to risk losing the chance to see him. Is this something that should be grounds for a breakup?

This is a man who told me countless times that nothing would ever make him leave me. I have shown him again and again how much I love him, through my actions and with my words.

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I expected him to talk to me and express his displeasure if my leaving earlier than his departure made him unhappy. But breakup? This feels too harsh.

I have apologised several times but he is not having it. I am so heartbroken that I cannot focus on anything. The signs are manifesting in my body. My heart has been pounding erratically these past few days. I feel sick to my stomach all the time. Who knew? Loving someone this deeply can be catastrophic when it turns sour.

—Selina

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