Dealing with Social Friction, Part 3: Adjusting for Friction

Social friction is everywhere in your conversations and seductions. But how do you adapt when you encounter it? That depends on the level of friction – plus where it comes from. In almost every social or romantic interaction you’ll have, you will encounter social friction. Social friction is our catch-all concept for anything and everything that rises up to impede your social objectives. All these count as ‘friction’: Women’s tests and resistance Interruptions, disruptions, and cockblocks from others Logistical issues and obstacles (such as no place to isolate a girl to) Unanticipated wildcards, like a girl drinking too much or discovering she’s lost her phone In Part 1 of my series on social friction, we fleshed out exactly what social friction is and how it affects your socializing and seduction. In Part 2, we discussed reevaluating your situation with the help of the 3 Rs: Recognize, Remove, and Reassess. Rather than get trapped in a deteriorating situation, with the 3 Rs

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Dealing with Social Friction, Part 3: Adjusting for Friction

Social friction is everywhere in your conversations and seductions. But how do you adapt when you encounter it? That depends on the level of friction – plus where it comes from.

In almost every social or romantic interaction you’ll have, you will encounter social friction. Social friction is our catch-all concept for anything and everything that rises up to impede your social objectives. All these count as ‘friction’:

Women’s tests and resistance
Interruptions, disruptions, and cockblocks from others
Logistical issues and obstacles (such as no place to isolate a girl to)
Unanticipated wildcards, like a girl drinking too much or discovering she’s lost her phone

In Part 1 of my series on social friction, we fleshed out exactly what social friction is and how it affects your socializing and seduction.

In Part 2, we discussed reevaluating your situation with the help of the 3 Rs: Recognize, Remove, and Reassess. Rather than get trapped in a deteriorating situation, with the 3 Rs you can evaluate in real time whether to stick with the plan or make a change of plans.

Today, we’ll discuss how to adjust in the face of social friction. We’ll cover everything from minor adjustments to your plan, to the necessity of having a bailout plan – no matter what you’re doing.

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