COMMON MISTAKES LADIES MAKE IN A RELATIONSHIP (EPISODE 5 & 6)

Emmanuel really was a devil in disguise and after the night i gave him my virginity, he changed from Emmanuel who respected my body, to Mike who loves nothing but sex, and it was as if his eyes opened after our first act which i regretted, and from that moment his attitude towards me changed.

This act then became all he knew and he started demanding for it almost everyday which really shocked me, for i had thought after our first time that will be the end of it. I was wrong and it just seemed as if our first act turned him into a sex addict overnight and my foolish self later gave in. I had no option than to oblige him, just to keep my man and prevent him from having external affairs outside. I just want to keep making him happy.

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This really gave a big blow on my relationship with God, i never had time for school fellowship programs or Christian events on campus again all because Emmanuel was with me always, willing to satisfy his lustful desire and moreover i felt trap in the relationship that within myself i loosed my prayer life and close communication with God. I really felt a huge guilt in me, cos i willingly gave in to Emmanuel and now there is no way out.

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However he never did stop caring nor spoiling me with gifts, but then every good deed or affection he showered on me, often ended up with him demanding for this rubbish act in return and i continued playing along. He virtually owned my body that period and i really couldn’t bring myself to disobey him even though sometimes i did try to stop him from having his way with me. This would leave him gloomy for the rest of the day and I will finally give in to his demand just to make him happy.

I wasn’t really happy with the way things were going between us, because i knew God wasn’t happy with me, but i was just madly in love with this guy, i will say. So there was nothing my weak self could do

“What if something happens and he dumps me” i often did ask myself that period, but just the thought of it would send shivers down my spine, and i would end up saying

“GOD FORBID”

He was equally my neighbour that period, which really made the closeness irresistible and there really wasn’t a way i could avoid him.

Mariam, my best friend, was also not helpful when i finally confided in her, but i really didn’t blame her, because she equally wasn’t experienced even though she behaved like a big girl…….

“Is he cheating on you?” she had asked me.

“No” i replied.

“Is he stingy?”

“No”

“Does he hide anything from you?”

“No”

“So what’s hard in rewarding him with your body, it’s not as if you are losing anything, moreover you aren’t a virgin anymore, and even if you stop having it with him from now till you die, you still won’t be a virgin again, free yourself and enjoy it jor” she had advised, while i stared at her and said nothing,

I kept on thinking and pondering on that statement she uttered. She has won my weak-self with that, and i agreed with her cause the mistake has been done already (peer influence)

But then the more i gave Emmanuel my body, the bolder he became in demanding for more and it just looked as if he was trying to have it all before graduating, which really astonished me. I knew i would still be there for him no matter where he went, but i guess he didn’t trust me and i never knew he had other plans in his mind as he turned me into a love making machine.

It soon got to a stage where i couldn’t take the rubbish act anymore, and surprisingly it led to our first fight.

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As these memories flashed back in my mind, my body shook as i cried deeply.

The memory really was so painful cos it was the first time a guy laid his hands on me.

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It all happened one fateful evening when we were together in his room, he carried me on his laps and started his foolish act on my foolish self

“Baby you smell nice” he said to me while i blushed, and truthfully Emmanuel really is a master of sweet words which he always used on me. (That was my greatest weak point)

“What is it baby? Sit up nah” he said as he drew my hand in order for me to sit up but i refused, which left him extremely surprised.

“what is the matter?” he asked

“I can’t do it” i replied, and he smiled.

He was surprised, he asked why?

“I won’t cos i don’t like it” i said arrogantly, while he stared at me as i got up from his bed and dressed up. His eyes burned furiously as he watched me.

“Baby why are you so selfish?” he finally asked,(what a foolish statement i wondered)

“You are the one very selfish all you now know is this rubbish act, just see how skinny you have become” i replied with a hurtful tone, which really was a big mistake and it earned me two powerful slaps on my face while i held my jaw and stared at him in shock and disbelief…OMG!

I stared at him angrily and in shock for a while, before rushing back to my room in tears.

“Baby i’m sorry” I heard him apologise as he followed me but i shut my door and locked it before he could enter. I really was so hurt that day cos i never believed Emmanuel would ever lay his hand on me.

Tears flowed freely from my eyes as i remembered how i felt that day. “Why am i even remembering all these?” i asked myself as i cleaned my eyes, but then it was my feelings for Samuel which was bringing my past experience back to my head, and i had no control over it.

I soon heard a steady knock on my door

Who was it?

Checkout in the next episode

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Lesson 2: All a lady earns from cheapen and giving yourself away to a guy is disrespect. Believe me, when you fail giving him this thing, he will dump you instantly!

EPISODE 6

I soon heard a steady knock on my door, which brought me out from my thoughts. I immediately composed myself as i went to open my door and when i opened it, there stood Samuel with a smile on his gentle face, and he peered into the dark room.

“Are you still sleeping? It’s almost 7:45pm” he asked me while i forced a smile.

“Actually i wasn’t even sleeping oo” i replied as i yawned, switched on my bulb and allowed him in. He entered, looked around for a while before staring at me again. I tried to hide my face by looking down, but his sharp eyes noticed my dull face and red eyes. Seriously guys can be very sharp when it comes to reading a girl’s face, especially a girl they are interested in.

“What’s wrong? What happened?” he asked seriously and with care, while i sat on my bed and looked away, he was soon beside me and he held my hands tenderly.

“Please what is it, maybe i could be of help?” he asked, while i forced a smile.

“Don’t worry it’s nothing” i replied, but he just shook his head.

“I don’t believe you, moreover nobody cries over nothing” he insisted.

“Samuel it’s nothing serious, i just remembered someone i used to care for” i explained and he smiled.

“Ok, I now understand, so where is he?” he asked but i just gave him a blank look.

“Why do you want to know?” i asked back as i rolled my eyes, which made him to smile and shrug. But then my retort didn’t put him off, instead he drew closer to me and looked into my eyes.

“Sweetheart a problem shared is a problem solved, moreover sharing your story with a friend sometimes helps to reduce tension and bad feelings, and i equally promise to share my own story with you when you are done with yours” he said to me fearlessly, while i looked at him silently as i battled within my mind whether to share my secret with him or not. I thought to myself that no matter my feelings for him, he still is a boy and might use it against me in future, but the way he stared at me really showed he cared and the sparkle in his eyes were very real and filled with love. My eyes melted again and i burst into tears while he held me in his arms and consoled me.

“It’s okay baby” he said with his gentle voice, and truthfully I didn’t know how i felt that moment cos it has been a long time a guy held me in that manner.

His arms were comforting and i really felt like sleeping in them when he held me, but then i equally didn’t want to appear vulnerable or weak to him and so i managed to control and keep myself in check by drying my eyes.

“It’s okay everything happens for a purpose, what are you going to eat tonight?” he asked, while i said nothing.

“I have soup, i can make garri for you” he said, which made me to laugh.

“Thanks Sam, you are a nice guy but don’t worry, i will drink tea with my biscuit” i replied, while he shrugged in resignation.

“Don’t worry once i’m done with my night bath i will come and spend an hour with you” i had said to him, when i finally composed myself and stopped my tears that evening. He stared at me as if he was reading my mind through my eyes.

“Do you promise? Cos i can’t wait to hear your story?” he asked, while i smiled and nodded.

“Yea i promise” i replied, before he stood up and left in order to give me space to take my bath.

As you all know, we girls do like to keep our secrets to ourselves but then Samuel really appeared very special to me, because he had few friends and didn’t socialize much. This made me to trust him and seriously the feelings i had for him was equally so much that i was even ashamed of myself sometimes. Yet, I couldn’t help it and at precisely 8:55pm that fateful evening i saw myself in his room where we stared at each other as if we were searching for something in our eyes.

After taking my night bath that evening, i took my biscuit and a cup of tea to his room because i promised to come and stay with him for a while in order to tell him my story.

“So dear, i’m all ears” he said to me with a smile, while i drank my tea and smiled back as i prepared to share my story with him.

And there i sat in his room about to reveal my intimate secrets to a male who really was nothing but a stranger to me, if not that i had feelings for him, and with a smile on my face i opened my mouth to do what i never knew i would ever do in my life.

Hmmmmm, love really works wonders.

I told him the first few chapters of my love life with Emmanuel, which was focused mainly on how we started and how he took away my virginity, which equally turned him into an addict, and truthfully i really knew not what pushed me into revealing some part of my intimate life to him, even though i kept the main part to myself, while he listened attentively with his eyes focused on me.

“So how did it all end?” he seriously asked, while i breathed deeply because i stopped my story at the scene where Emmanuel slapped me. A smile equally displayed on my face as i noticed the excitement with which he asked the last question.

“I will say our affair officially ended on his graduation day” i replied, as the memory of that particular day rushed into my head, while Samuel nodded his head for me to continue.

Then i continued

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Emmanuel’s graduation day really was a day i will never forget in a hurry and that night was equally spectacular, as we made love all through in celebration of good things to come, without knowing that I was celebrating the end of our relationship.

That particular day equally was a very great and special day for Emmanuel, and his happiness knew no bounds.

After settling the hostel neighbours by giving them a carton of malt and beer to share, he dragged me out from the hostel happily.

“Dearie it’s you and i today, lets go catch some fun” he whispered into my ear, while i giggled happily. (foolish me).

He took me to a small fast food joint at the other end of the town, where he spoiled me with chicken pepper soup and ice cream, together with sweet romantic words which followed it.

It really was one of the best romantic moments i ever had with him and i equally was the happiest girl on earth that fateful day. When we got back to his room around 8pm in the evening, he held me tenderly.

“Baby thanks a lot for being by my side all through my struggle as a student” he whispered, while my eyes melted. Oh I was so much in love with him as i prepared myself to give him my body once again.

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“Dear please continue” i heard Benjamin say to me, while i stared back at him with a smile on my face.

“Sometimes a little girl needs to keep some stories to herself” i said and winked at him, while he shifted unhappily where he sat.

“It isn’t fair oo” he protested, which made me to smile further.

“I’m very sorry but i can’t continue” i apologised, as i reached for his hand which i held softly.

Truthfully, i couldn’t really bring myself to share the rest of my story with him, because a girl really needs to keep some secrets to herself.

“I think it’s time to get going” i said to Samuel who just looked at me unhappily.

“You are not keeping your promise, it’s not what we agreed” he continued to protest while i stood up.

“Don’t worry in due time you will know everything” i said to him, while he shrugged.

“I don’t have a choice nah, so let me just wait hopefully” he said to me, while i laughed, carried my tea cup and left for my room.

I rinsed my tea cup when i got to my room before lying down to sleep, but still sleep eluded me once again, as the memory of my last moments with Emmanuel flashed back into my head.

His goodbye really was the most sincere words he ever spoke to me and equally the saddest words i ever heard, but then i misinterpreted his goodbye thinking that it was just a normal parting words of a travelling boyfriend, without knowing that it was a final goodbye from a guy abandoning his girlfriend and walking out from a relationship which she jealously guided with her whole heart.

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After his final exams, he had only stayed for two weeks before packing up some of his properties, even though his rent was not yet due. My heart really skipped countless times as i helped him pack his things, which i did out of loyalty and not because i wanted him to leave.

“Why are you leaving so soon, how about your clearance?” i had asked, while he just smiled as he held me.

“Don’t worry dear, they have all been taken care of and i’m just leaving because i don’t want to waste any time in preparing the road for our future” he replied sweetly, while i stared at him with a fast beating heart which was filled with love.

“I’m very scared” i said to him, while he smiled before kissing me passionately.

“You have nothing to fear princess, i can never forget your beauty nor the love we share together, just trust me, infact i should really be the one to be scared, because you are too beautiful to be left alone” i heard him say, while i blushed, because his sweet words were really too much for my inexperienced little brain-washed head, and his lips rested on mine again.

He had control over me again at that point, that i was just a toy in his hands and even when we quarreled i forgave him easily even when i swore not to.

As we made love once again, i really didn’t know that it was a goodbye gift from him, all i did was just to enjoy every bit of it without knowing that i was being du

mped.

-To be continued-