True Life Story: I Wish I Never Confessed To My Husband

True Life Story: I Wish I Never Confessed To My Husband

Dear Lively Stones,

Its funny how I was just scrolling through the internet when this story caught my attention. At first, I was praying this story (click here to read the story) was not like mine but indeed, it had so many similarities with mine. And this moved me to share my story. First of all, I want the poster not to confess to her husband what happened to her in that house party. The confession will lead to chaos and happiness may never be found in her marriage again.

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My story is long but let me shorten it: I was married to my Terry (not real name) after 5 years of dating on and off. On and off cos he was abroad for most of the time doing his masters. Eventually we got married and life was good. We had twins and one boy. Every holiday, we travelled to the US, for vacation. Then, my husband got an offer in an oil and gas company that required him to travel quite alot. It was hard juggling three children all by myself so I had to stop work to become full time mom & wife. Money was not a problem for us.

However, being a stay home mom opened my eyes to some kind of loneliness. I mean, when the kids are gone to bed, its just me and my pillow. My husband may be unreachable most times. I even began to suspect he was seeing other people cos, how can someone be away from their wife for so long without s3x? So I started masturbating and using pornography. Then one day, I clicked on meeting guys online…and thereafter met up in a hotel and I cheated. Immediately I did it, I h@ted myself. I was disgusted. I wanted to confess and vomit. I cried for days until my husband came home and I could not hold myself, I confessed.

The reaction I got after my confession was not what I got. After I was done with confession, hubby said its ok. That he understands, that we are all humans. I was shocked. So I asked if its because he too is cheating that is why he is not mad at me? He said, babe, if you are being honest, I think you already know the answer to that question….I said so you are cheating? And he said, no…you are the one I am cheating with….I had to get married to cover my secret.

What secret? My husband said he is bisexual and to hide his relationship with the man he is in love with for the past seven years, he had to get married to remove all suspicions away from their relationship. Now,….that was a game changer. I suspected he was cheating but he was f#cking a man was not in the least around my thinking at all.

I was mad at him now…I told him he is a f#cking hypocrite….I cursed him with all the abuses I knew but he was just calm. When I was done, he just said, babe…nothing has changed between us, I am still your loving husband and great dad to our kids…I still love you…I only told you my secret because I felt I could trust you, after you cheated on me with another man…so please lets not make this a big deal.

Infact, he said…I will not stop you if you want to sleep with other men. I am a free thinker. Love is love…sleep with whoever you want, it will not affect our relationship at all. After all these talk, my husband went to sleep. I could not sleep…I wanted answers but he would not tell me who the man he is in love with. I have tried everything to find out but I cannot find out. I cant hack his phone cos he is an IT guru, his devices are heavily protected.

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Now, I am feeling so stupid. Like, why did I bother to confess. What gain was that to me? I now know that my husband only married me as a cover up…he is not in love with me…he is just being polite with me…my husband’s side piece is a man whom he has been in love with even before he married me? So now, do I just continue in this marriage like normal or what should I do in this situation?

I have thought of divorcing him, that will not be a problem cos he will settle me very well but I am in love with him all the same…how do I just accept that he is bisexual? Just like that? Its hard for me to accept but I truly love my husband…that is why I blame myself for confessing…I truly wish I never knew his secret…cos, what am I supposed to do with this secret? If you were in my shoes, what will you do?

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