True Life Story: I Am Suspecting My Husband Is Impotent & He Knows

True Life Story: I Am Suspecting My Husband Is Impotent & He Knows

Hi Lively Stones,

I need help and advise. I suspects my husband is impotent. Sorry but I dont know how to write plenty stories but I am at a point in my life where I am about to make a very difficult decision. My husband is a good man but I think he is impotent. When we got married five years ago, we started trying for children and nothing we did ever worked. They said both of us are medically fine but I think the doctor who is a family friend of his may have lied.

I tried several IVFs in that same hospital but it never worked. Now, I think I was just being deceived. Maybe I am paranoid but listen to my story. I love my husband and he treats me very well so far …the only issue is the childlessness. He keeps saying we should wait for God’s time but early this year, he then said we should consider adoption cos its been five years no time have I even gotten pregnant even for once.

This made me feel like I was the one with the problem so I went to another hospital where I was confirmed very fertile and ok to have children. But my husband refused to go to the second hospital because he said his family doctor is a well experienced fertility and genealogist doctor. Well, this made me sad but I left it cos he said if we try adopting, God will do a miracle for us when we take care another person’s baby.

So around February, we started the adoption process. Right now, we are waiting for a teenager who is pregnant to give birth in September so we can adopt her baby. But something happened in May. I went to an uncle’s 60th birthday in Kwara state. My Uncle’s wife has always been worried about my childless situation kept asking me how far. I told her I got a second hospital opinion but my husband refused. It was then my aunty said what if my husband was the one with an issue and was pretending?

I did not want to believe my aunty but she encouraged me to find out by sleeping with another man, and if I get pregnant, then I will know the truth…even if it means aborting the baby, but she said, I should not be naive…that no marriage can last without children and the wife will be blamed most times when there is no child. My aunty told me one of my former admirers was at the party and encouraged me to sleep with the man ….

Initially, I told my aunty I can never cheat on my husband …my aunt scolded me and told me to stop being naive and stupid. That if I dont act fast….I will regret it when age is no longer on my side. So, when I saw this former admirer….he was so excited to see me and got talking that I should have married him, that he would have taken very good care of me and that he would have given me twins 3 times more. It was a joke the way he said it but I was tempted to find out if I could actually get pregnant.

So I flirted with this guy and we had s3x. I made sure we had s3x twice that day. He thought I was into him so he did not even resist. The man wanted us to continue seeing but I blocked him soon as I left for my base back home. I felt guilty all through since I have been back home. I prayed to God to forgive and even my mind told me that I cannot get pregnant just by sleeping with a stranger just once. I felt I had just cheated on my husband for nothing.

Then I accepted that I had made a mistake and finally agreed to stop worrying about children and wait for our adopted child that will soon be born. After the end of June, nothing happened. It made me more sad and stupid for sleeping with another man. But just two weeks ago, I started having symptoms of dizziness, sleeping all the time, getting more and more hungry…and I noticed my period was late.…

In panic….I took a pregnancy test and it was instantly positive. I did it five times and it was all positive. Ladies and gentlemen….is this not proof that my husband has been the problem since? I have been so scared since I slept with another man but now…I am so angry and I feel so betrayed. I feel like confronting my husband but then, that would mean admitting I had s3x with another man.

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How do I deal with this situation? My aunt who suggested this whole thing initially advised that if I get pregnant, I should abort it…but now, I dont think I can abort a child that I have wait for …for more than 5 years. I deserve to be a mom and I have been denied of that for so long…now I know why some women lie and give other men’s pregnancies to their husbands. Yes, could this is God’s way of giving us our child? What if I never told my husband or anyone else about this?

Oh God…I am so confused and angry and scared of what to do next….do you think I should confront my husband? or what should I do? please advise me.

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