TIPS TO A BETTER LISTENER 

We live in an age where everyone wants to talk but no one wants to listen. To pay attention and listen seems like punishment. Yet, it is one of the most important attributes for our relationships. Both at home and at work. Here are some tips to be a better listener. 

✅ Turn Off Distractions

Put your phone away. Putting your phone away sends a signal to the other party that you are serious. If there are other distractions like music or movies or someone else talking, gently turn them away. Turn off every distraction. 

✅ Be Okay With Silences 

Silence is a normal part of deep conversations. Allow the person to use silence as they want. Yes, silence can feel awkward, but they don't have to be. Sometimes, the person is merely processing their thought. Allow the silence to have its effect. Be okay with silence. 

✅ Ask Good Questions

Conversations lead to questions. Ask questions that help you understand. Ask questions that help the other person clarify a point or a narrative. 

✅ Don't Judge 

The temptation to judge others is very human. Resist it. Don't say things such as "You were stupid. You were foolish." Just listen. 

✅ Be vulnerable too

Show vulnerability to the person you are conversing with. Share your fears and experience too. Show them you are human, just like them.